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As a little bit of a palate cleanser for the Annunciation shooting and Scotland
All Female Braveheart Remakechildren-with-knives fracas, I thought we could talk about the financial state of internet whoredom:Matthew Ball Xwitter Thread on OnlyFans Financials
(Mod question: If linking to a Xwitter thread, are there any standard operating procedures considering some people don't have it?)
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What actually got me to take the time to write this up was seeing this article on sports betting.
Sports betting, OnlyFans (etc.), and addiction level of marijuana use are, to me, the three horsemen of tolerated social degeneration. That these all disproportionately impact (there, I said it!) young males is all the more revealing -- society is still okay with disposing the disposables and is now more than happy to turn it into a multi-billion dollar industry.
Can anyone comment on the status of prostitution as a fourth horseman in places where it's legal (Germany, Australia, the UK, etc.)?
Prostitution, for all its serious problems, is as lindy as it gets. Fairly analogous to how playing roulette at the casino is better for society than sports gambling on an app.
UD: lindy
TIL.
If you claim is that prostitution has been around since the dawn of time and will not go anywhere, I agree.
If you are arguing that prostitution is generally less problematic than internet porn, I disagree. Sex work, like sex (or driving a car) covers too many vastly different behaviors to make a general moral judgement.
I would imagine most wives would rather have a husband who spends 1k$ a month on OF than one who spends the same amount of money on local hookers. (And would like it even less if he spend the same amount on another woman who was not a professional.)
Okay, but I can see the more socially conservative people here figuring this is a case where the dose makes the poison. Sure, one of the latter is worse than one of the former, but the numbers are not comparable. There's a lot more of the former (for, e.g., the friction reasons someone else pointed out).
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As with many things in the digital era, the distinction is friction. Having to go to a casino or a brothel (or, I suppose, a strip club might be more analogous to OF) applies a measure of braking force on vicious impulses. The ability to pick up your phone and indulge sets the bar for self-control vastly higher than needing to go out. I also suspect that for some people, the physical act of spending money triggers more aversion than an equivalent digital transaction.
I would add two further points:
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