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Firstly, this sucks, but I would expect it will ultimately blow over if you ignore her. These kinds of interactions run on attention, and when she gets none from you there's nothing left for her to get out of it.
Secondly, the lesson to learn here is that this:
was always a function of this:
It was never going to be some unhappy coincidence. No, better luck next time. If you select for girls that aren't like normal girls, they will end up not like normal girls. If you like a girl for her atypically nonfemale coded interests and interactions, she's going to be nonfemale coded in other ways.
This comes up again and again and again with spergy types chasing MPDG's with attractive 'buddy' interests attached to boobs. But her depressingly NCP reddit tier asexual text is somewhat correct. She nerded out with you about comic books, which you admit is atypical. That's a sign that she's not interacting with you in a predictably girl-guy way.
But let's imagine the opposite. You meet a male friend who's super sensitive and warm and emotionally available. He doesn't share your hobby interests, which is atypical for guys you select for as friends. But dammit this guy shows you attention and makes you feel special. He's emotionally available, fun, playful and you feel refreshingly wanted. One day he makes a move on you, and you recoil. He's GAY?!
Are you actually suprised? This doesn't invalidate all of the friendship gestures as completely ingenuine. Nor do I think none of MPDG's flirting was real. But overall, you get what you get.
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