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Pediatric gender medicine came crashing home for me this week. My neighbor's youngest, older than my oldest but close, started public pre-K this month as a boy and came back this week a girl. The mother of the family seems to think the school knows best and they're both well educated and well equipped to deal with this.
I have thoughts, but I don't want to post in the culture war thread because I don't want a war here. I like my neighbors. I like their boys. But I believe this is a social contagion, and now I have thyphoid Mary living next door. I also believe that kids emulate each other.
What the hell do I do? I don't want to upset my neighbors but don't want to call him she or a girl, and I don't want them telling my kids to do that either.
As of yet, nobody has made any requests of me, but it's consuming my thoughts. I've lost friends over contentious topics recently, like the last year, and I don't want that repeating with people I see every day and can't avoid.
I've been dreading this a bit too.
My middle daughter is 4 and has been insisting for a year now that she is a boy. That she doesn't like girls or playing with them and only wants to be with boys. We've mostly surrendered on the clothing front, we buy her boys clothes and shoes, but she still has long hair. And we certainly don't introduce her as a boy.
She has been in the same daycare most of her life, and they are not the kind of place that would encourage that sort of thing. The hispanic lady that runs the place talked to me about voting for Trump because of the things the left was doing to kids in school. The pre-k she is in right now is Christian oriented and less likely to pull any funny business on this topic. Our best guess for why she does this is that she had a really good friend at the daycare that was a little boy a year older than her, and she just wanted to emulate many things about him.
But she enters kindergarten at a public school next year.
I wish I had good advice for you. The one positive thing that might be going for me is that class sizes are large and she is likely to go unnoticed.
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