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PaperclipPerfector  1mo ago (text post)   1949 thread views

Wellness Wednesday for September 24, 2025

The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:

  • Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.

  • Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.

  • Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.

  • Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).

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I have no idea if you're being serious here or not. Did you really think this was an appropriate thing to respond with? That's autism on another level. You are not the person I want to hear from.

I have no idea if you're being serious here or not.

I am being completely serious.

Did you really think this was an appropriate thing to respond with?

Your post does not really pose an unambiguous question, but its most specific requests appear to be "I don't know what to do with myself after I move out." and "Basically, I need advice from smart people.". I have been considered smart by my teachers and my coworkers (though perhaps not by the illustrious denizens of this forum). So I think my comment is responsive.

That's autism on another level. You are not the person I want to hear from.

As the kids say, "o7".

So in your view Scrooge from Dickens Christmas tale is living his best life at the start of the classic and is left worse off by the story's conclusion?

The story does not indicate that Scrooge had any enjoyable hobbies. Rather, immediately after work:

Scrooge took his melancholy dinner in his usual melancholy tavern; and having read all the newspapers, and beguiled the rest of the evening with his banker’s-book, went home to bed.

Also, he obviously had not retired.

I don't really blame you for not reading the whole thing, because it was rather long. But I already told you I kind of doubt that I could continue my career without some specific permanent thing, someone who cares about me, and then something that I will grow and leave behind (children). I believe that because I sometimes feel pangs of existential dread on my drives home like my life is going nowhere and that I don't know why I'm doing anything. I believe that because the same pangs caused me to drop out of all my classes a couple times. So, respectfully, I think your advice doesn't apply to me.

A lot of the folks on here, while super intelligent, are quite cynical and even misanthropic. Just so you're aware.

I don't recommend mimicking that approach to life, hah! It can get old quite quick.

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