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https://www.reuters.com/world/us/democrats-want-reach-young-male-voters-how-get-them-is-up-debate-2025-10-06/
Reports like these have been an almost weekly occurrence all year. To state the obvious that none of these articles include: The Democratic Party and liberals engage in bulverism and bulverism alienates people. But is the problem purely liberals alienating young men or are conservatives also successfully courting them?
Probably more the former. Team Red isn't offering that much, but at least they aren't broadcasting their disdain at every opportunity.
Disclaimer: I'm middle-aged and not terribly in contact with the yutes. But as a straight white male with a job, I occasionally wonder what exactly Team Blue could ever do to entice me to vote for them in a national election (short of entirely abandoning 75%+ of their policies).
Get a biological woman to go on a date with me with a positive, collaborative attitude and not talk about Gaza.
In any college-educated/mostly Blue Tribe milieu, that last requirement is going to be a killer. A genuine Red Tribe setting (i.e. some churches) might be okay.
Why is it considered mandatory to moralize about a cause they only found out about last week on a date? I'm not interested in talking to brainworms. Or in being verbally bludgeoned with emotionally-loaded words.
I don't want to hear about Jesus either.
It's considered mandatory, because the woke worldview is totalizing and impenetrable. That is, it is always relevant to every single aspect of life (i.e. "everything is political," "the personal is political"), and it's hardened against traditional, conservative forms of modification for better conforming to truth and facts such as logic and evidence. Whether you learned of this yesterday or 2 decades ago, the fundamental Correctness of this belief doesn't change, nor does your responsibility as a member of someone on the Right Side of History to immanentize the eschaton by preaching to your significant other.
After that, it's basic market forces; the types of women you are talking about are high in demand, low in supply, so they get to set the terms of these relationships. At least, unless you fit into a category that's even higher in demand/lower in supply.
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