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Has anyone ever met a conservative, atheist, vegan before? I have this friend that is all 3 and he feels like such a niche character. 1 in 2k? 1 in 10k? I'm not sure, but I'm informally curious how many folks with this similar set of beliefs there are out there. Particularly how many are women. As this topic is related to finding a mate with compatible values, and I think if he sticks to requiring them to meet his values, he's going to die alone.
Anyone who sticks to requiring some strict set of criteria from a partner wants to die alone. Trying to debate him without addressing his real motivations and goals is a waste of time. Arguing with him about the odds is telling him: your method is going to be very effective at achieving your goals.
This is a really bad take. It's trivial to conceive of a preference ordering consistent with any standard, being:
Having a partner who adheres to X standards
Having no partner
Having a partner who does not adhere to X standards.
As a typical example for non-strict standards, consider X = "does not regularly smear shit on themselves". Most people would rather die alone than live their life with a shit-smearing partner, but still would like a partner in general as long as they can find one that meets their standards. If these standards are stricter then they're making a larger trade-off: stricter standards are going to drastically lower the probability of finding someone who meets them, but presumably increases the value of finding such a partner.
So if they have a strict set of criteria and stick to it anyway despite knowing it reduces their chances, it means their preference for those standards is stronger than their preference for having any partner, which is nonzero evidence that their preference for a partner is small, but it's absurd to extrapolate from that to concluding that their preference for a partner is negative. That scaring off most potential partners is actually the goal rather than an unfortunate side effect. If that were the case they could just call themselves asexual and not mention standards at all.
Small non-negative numbers exist.
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