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I should note right off the bat that I’m out of the loop about modern porn, I haven’t consumed commercial pornography in like a decade now. I would like to pretend that I quit watching porn for moral reasons, but I actually just found that while I was aroused by porn, the actual moment of orgasm when I was masturbating inevitably happened while I was looking away from the screen and remembering/remixing memories of partners I had. I realized that porn wasn’t really serving any purpose for me. I only know anything about Bonnie Blue from posters complaining about her existence. Including buying her own PR created hype, such as inflated subscriber/income numbers, designed to make her look more successful.
There are a lot of men who struggle with porn addiction, and they desperately want porn stars to be extravagantly miserable. There’s a certain kind of man who needs porn actresses to be degrading themselves in order to enjoy the product. It feels like cosmic balance, Porn makes them feel bad after their orgasm, and they want the people in the porn who have power over them, who make them do this over and over again, they can’t possibly be happy.
If we don’t want porn stars to make money, if we don’t want their names to be common bywords, men need to stop consuming porn. I’m not even asking you to stop masturbating! Just use your imagination and your memories! Think about that time in the back of the car after Kaylee’s graduation party, or that girl in the bookshop who never wears a bra.
It’s at core a demand problem. If men consume porn there will always be porn stars. Though to be frank, my wife is reading a biography of Marilyn Monroe, and I’m not sure other actresses are any better off. There’s a reason actress and prostitute have long been similar careers. And reading Jenna Jameson’s wikipedia page, Jenna being the last big queen of porn I was aware of when she was dating Tito Ortiz and he was LHW champ in the UFC, she seems to have wound up pretty low, but not really that unexpected compared to any other comparable actress of the time. It’s quite likely that any porn star or prostitute will come to a bad end for the very reasons that made her pursue the job to begin with. But it seems like a failure that people consume her content, not that she produces it. It's entirely within the power of men to do.
The problem is that porn and prostitution, like sports, are where you make a lot of money (if you make it) when you're young but you age out fast (I think for porn there's also the novelty problem, that the consumers want fresh content all the time).
So then you have to have something else to pivot to, when you're still in your 30s/40s (which is relatively young). And for porn actresses, the majority can't act (because that's not the talent they were hired for), so it's extremely hard to break into legitimate acting career.
And so, like the former sports star who blew through his fortune and now is no longer in demand, and who failed at running a business (it often happens, the Plan B of "I'll open my own sports shop/bar" does fall through) and didn't get a gig as a pundit, or a manager, the ex-porn star is left trying to squeeze the last drops of profit out of fading glory.
It's not so much to do with shame and stigma, as it is that nobody loves a fairy when she's forty.
Porn actress of the onlyfans kind is more of a marketing job than an acting job and the ones that make are pretty good at it. They'll have no problem pivoting to marketing for somebody else or social media management/strategist, IMO. The logical plan B for a sports athlete is to be a trainer of some kind.
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Typical-mind fallacy. Maybe you have a wealth of experience and a great imagination, but I have only about three IRL-based sexy situations that I can imagine well enough to fap to (available upon request), in comparison to the dozens of text, hundreds of video, and thousands of image situations that I have compiled on my computer.
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