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PaperclipPerfector  1mo ago (text post)   2872 thread views

Friday Fun Thread for December 19, 2025

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It's a bad idea to shoot your shot when a (lets be honest, very likely) rejection leaves you worse off than saying nothing.

This is why dating apps are so big. The cost of rejection is zero.

Its also why asking out women from work is usually a bad idea. Massive downside risk.

Eh I disagree. Some table stakes can at least let the girl know you are serious.

I met my now wife at work. And she was the third person I "dated" from a work environment. (The other two might not count for different reasons).

I was aware while dating my wife that if things in the relationship went bad I'd have to leave that organization. She is/was well liked and well known there.

Life has trade-offs. You gotta decide what finding love is worth. If the answer is it's worth "nothing" and you'll take no negative tradeoffs in the search then I think you'll be searching for much longer. (All else equal of course)

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