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PaperclipPerfector  6d ago (text post)   2516 thread views

Friday Fun Thread for December 19, 2025

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the sequence of two major events happening back-to-back appears like some sort of things falling into their respective places. maybe they are connected, maybe they aren't.

If you mean the story about the model, that was maybe a week before I reconnected with the new lady, one who can easily be described as a better model. No objectification intended, I treat my objects like women anyway.

I suppose the two are more related than I'm comfortable with. I was at maximum cynicism after encountering the former, but convinced myself that some of the women I had dated in the past weren't remotely as bad. Tentatively, some of them were good people! This turned to out to be more correct than I'd wagered for.

but it is really a good thing that instead of feeling completely cynical or apathy, you still are able to feel things intensely. keeps you human! with warts and all.

Burning out can feel pleasant, sometimes. The fire can't hurt you, if there are no pain receptors left to scream. But I'm not that far gone, it turns out my heart was only shriveled because it was waiting for rain. I hope the good times last.

those sound like more elaborate stories. with the kind of writing you do, definitely would be very very interesting. and you do have the next exam planned.

Thank you. But as I've said before, the Motte isn't treated to an indiscriminate catalog of my romantic trusts. Most of it doesn't strike me as particularly worth writing about! Guy meets girl, they think the other is nice, but can't quite make it work. You live and you learn, and look forward to something that is worth writing about, preferably the pleasant kind.

Sorry. No. The two i was referring to were

(1) Passing the Exam and,
(2) reaching the stage of saying "i love you" to a woman.

But I'm not that far gone, it turns out my heart was only shriveled because it was waiting for rain.

Change is the only constant.

Oh. I mean, passing the exam was definitely a sorely needed boost to my self-confidence. I needed that. It's always good to have objective markers of competence, so I know it's not all in my head. Perhaps it did give me the courage, to say fuck it and pursue someone a continent away, hoping I can put a ring on her.

hoping I can put a ring on her.

i feel that is a deeply tender phrase. to me, all the previous exchanges and phrases suggest to me that:

  • you have gone through some tough times (whatever be the stories).
  • many of those revolved around a less-than-fully-confident yourself (whether that was professional or emotional or i would even venture into immediate family)
  • it feels that you are still very tentative. Man, you have passed a tough exam, so give yourself a break about that part of yourself. that should be a good enough external validation about yourself, although i am not very enthusiastic about external validations but they do have a role, particularly when one is feeling down. career wise, you are on a definitely decent path from all parameters.
  • whatever you said, she did say it first to you (in a round-about manner). that should show you that she has taken an almost equal (but just that minor tiny bit more) risk as you. that should also tell you that you have a good amount of worth too.

so, look at things from a holistic point - you are on a strong footing and you should forge your path ahead as you feel right with eyes and ears and heart open.

let the shriveled heart drink rain; but never forget that your roots are green.

Thank you, again. I try my best to deserve her ❤️

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