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Yes the PUA have always had that category. I guess my point is a lot of betas and alphas have become omegas because of the job market.
I am not sure what a DiCaprio or Clooney would be if they were waiting tables in LA unable to find work. Unable to find work as white-men. Then they give up and go home and play video games all-day.
I think even high status men can become omegas when they lack opportunities for achievement and purpose. The Tylor Chase childhood star to unhoused story feels realistic to me now.
They'd clean up. Again, the rules that apply to you and me don't really apply to DiCaprio. I know the whole "she's over 25" memes, but remember his character in Titanic was a poor artist. Asian and South Asian men have the least luck in dating, but very successful careers. Their culture rewards grindmaxxing, and neglects social and dating skills. Tylor Chase is a Hollywood tragedy. I don't know what I'd do at that stage. I come from wealth, graduated with zero debt, got enough money in my savings and a steady of stream of rental revenue to retire today and still afford expensive holidays twice a year. I have a great job that'll probably hit 6 figures before I turn 30. My last relationship was during college. Running on 4 years with zero play.
I question whether they would clean up. Or would they be unemployed and living in their mom’s basement. A big part of becoming charismatic and interesting is having success which requires getting your foot in the door. Then you gain experience and confidence. I can get laid easier at 40 and bald than at 22. A lot happened between those years.
If Clooney or DiCaprio were 22 in 2018 they wouldn’t get casts for anything. They would be waiters at best. Then give up. I’ve been at a couple parties with DiCaprio. There isn’t anything about him that seems special other than another guy with a drink in his hand. He lives off his name and being really good at acting.
There are more obvious examples of guys we can agree would be nothing if the door wasn’t open. If Antonio Brown was banned from football because of his skin color it’s completely obvious he would be in jail. Though looks like that will happen anyway.
Mrs. Bezos would appear to disagree.
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