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I just posted a similar comment above, but I'm so confused by how quickly these discussions escalate.
I'm pretty sure oral sex has been happening for all of human history. It's so normal. It's not very invasive. No tissues get damaged.
The porn-enabled proliferation of anal is definitely weird and unfortunate. But to include it in the same paragraph as oral sex is just so strange to me. It's such a massive escalation from oral sex in terms of risk and discomfort I don't really see how they can be compared.
Especially because I do not believe for a second that oral sex was rare until the 90s or whatever when hardcore video porn started seriously proliferating throughout society.
Can't tell you what the book was or who because it's been so very long since I read it, but one account of the Marquis de Sade and his happy habits included that he used to hire hookers. Well, so far so norma, sez you. Yeah, but he wanted them to do kinky shit, which came out at his trial.
Oooh, what kind of kinky shit did the Father of BDSM want that disgusted professional prostitutes?
Fellatio. (Well, that and some yes for real kinky shit)
So yeah, I think social attitudes have changed over the centuries. Roman brothels were offering blow jobs as part of the services available, but Roman social mores still were that this was something you would only request from whores and not wives or girlfriends (the entire subject of the impure mouth in Roman rhetoric and as part of political attack ads, as we'd call today). And of course, men sucking cock was on a scale from laughable to disgusting perversion.
We have moved from "this is something you only ask degraded women to do" to "this is part of normal sex". That's a big shift in attitudes.
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