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In my second example, I was assuming that it's the same woman but she's not a pop star. Rather, she's just another porn actress getting paid relatively little. And men pay to watch her, but very little. Generally speaking, this type of situation outrages women. Even though fundamentally it's no different from the hypothetical multimillionaire pop-star.
Sorry for not making myself clear before.
I just realized that I skipped over the word 'dearly' in the original comment. My bad. Altogether I agree with the general point that society as a whole is generally not comfortable with any man having sex for 'free' in the rather wide sense of the word, especially when that free boning is taking place in the context of cohabiting, for example.
On a somewhat related note, do scantily clad pop singers usually earn significantly more than porn actresses? I wonder.
Certainly the well known ones, such as Taylor Swift, do. Note that Taylor Swift has what could be called a "residual claim." In other words, if she blows up, she reaps most of the benefits. By contrast, if a movie by a porn actress blows up, it's her employer that reaps the benefits. Unless of course she is independently successful, for example a big OF star. But in that case, the situation is much less objectionable to feminists.
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I think it has a lot to do with HereandGone's point: the pop star is modeling something that might be fun for a woman and her romantic interest to role-play, while the porn actress often is not.
You mean not fun for the woman in the relationship to roleplay? :)
Yes, that's what I meant. What's the :) for?
To mark my comment as sexist humor. I'm looking at the thread and not finding the argument by @HereAndGone2 that you are referring to.
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