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Wellness Wednesday for January 14, 2026

The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:

  • Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.

  • Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.

  • Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.

  • Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).

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Maybe the only thing I really can ask is what you can do to help someone who's clearly overloaded, but can't stand it when something isn't done the way they would do it, and doesn't know how to explain what they want?

I had testicular cancer ~decade ago. I was the same way during chemo. I didn't like it when other people did "stuff" for me (don't like how they do it, don't want to be a burden, don't want other people's pitty, etc). But I very much appreciated a good game of chess. From other people I've talked to in similar situations, "fun" stuff is can be more well received than "help" stuff.

The help side is mostly for his wife, who's kind of overwhelmed.

With my dad, I've been watching more football than I have in years, since that's what he wants to do now.