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I'm going to have surgery tomorrow. Nothing major, should be done in a jiffy, might help with the hayfever.
But I intensely dislike hospitals and don't trust doctors, doubly so when they plan to knock me out for the procedure. So just in case you never hear from me again - medicine is a scam, the health care system doesn't give a damn about outcomes, German buerocracy is incompetent, doctors are villains, I told you so!
Make sure to properly count your organs before and after surgery!
Good luck. I presume it's a sinus surgery or something like an adenoidectomy or tonsillectomy? Or correction of DNS?
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I'm pretty worried about my liberal friends. The common mood is gloom, despair, thoughts of leaving the country.
Whenever I try to bring any nuance into the discussion it seems met with hostility, like I'm personally in favor of abducting dark skinned US citizens and sending them to CECOT.
I try to say things aren't that bad for 99% of the population. People are reacting to freak events and not real life. But it doesn't matter. I'm arguing utilitarian stuff and they're arguing deontology stuff. It feels bad for them to be in a society where Trump is their leader.
I don't really know what to say.
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Reposting because I dropped this in the last Wednesday thread on a Tuesday like a dummy.
Could anyone direct me to some good posts about antidepressants? Effortposts about their efficacy, personal experience, I'm not picky. I tried to find some but Google wasn't much use and I can't figure out how to search the site specifically (permanent lurker here, sorry).
I was on Bupropion for 2 years about a decade ago. For the first year it was helpful in managing a depression that manifested with lots of fatigue. It gave me the energy to make lifestyle changes that improved it long term. During the second year it began causing unmanageable anger issues and I eventually stopped. Ever since then my lifestyle changes and talk therapy have managed it reasonably well.
Lately it's been getting worse and I'm considering going back on antidepressants. The main issue is that unambiguously good events exacerbate my depression and that has historically led to me sabotaging myself. I have some major life events coming up in the next couple years and would like some emotional stability. I have a psych eval tomorrow and I was hoping for some advice, feedback, pointed questions to ask the psychiatrist, stories, anything really. Even some google-fu advice to find better scientific information about this instead of feel-good self help articles made by AI or journalists who are about as smart as current AI without the work ethic. Do I even need antidepressants, or is this some weird Pavlovian issue that I can work on without them?
You need a psychiatrist. I am only two-thirds of one, but fortunately for you, I've got exams and that means actually reading some of the papers.
(Please see an actual psychiatrist)
The choice of initial antidepressant is often a tossup between adherence to official guidelines, clinical judgements based on activity profile and potential side effects, and a dialogue with the patient.
In short? It is usually not very helpful to worry too hard about the first drug. They're roughly equally effective (and where one is superior, it's by a very slim margin) But in certain situations:
(But before the meds, a physical checkup is mandatory, as are investigations to rule out medical causes. You're going to feel depressed if your thyroid isn't working, or if you've got Cushing's.)
Unfortunately, you haven't given me enough information to make an informed choice. I'd need to know about the severity of your depression, graded based on symptoms, lifestyle, overall health and a bunch of other things. Hopefully your actual doctor will do their due diligence.
Man you are either an irredeemable slopmonger or spending so much time immersed in slop that your own writing is becoming indistinguishable.
Wow.
I guess we have to expand the taxonomy of LLM psychosis, to account for people so paranoid/blind that they see AI the moment someone bothers to use markdown formatting. If bullet points are all it takes to set you off, then one to the brain is probably the best possible cure.
I've always written like this. You're welcome to trawl my profile back to the days when LLMs were largely useless, and you'll find the same results.
And, for what it's worth, that comment was hastily typed out while in the midst of studying actual notes on antidepressant prescription according to UK guidance. You just can't win.
Guess what? The LLMs have read the same literature. There isn't much room to put some kind of unique human spin on the basics of choosing and switching between antidepressants. If ChatGPT had written it for me, it would have been thrice as long, and probably more comprehensive. In which case, I am flattered to be mistaken for it.
This Christmas marked a sad milestone in AI for me: I heard a Frank Sinatra song on youtube (I Guess I'll Have to Change My Plan ) and I'd never heard it before and got suspicious that it was some kind of AI fake in the style of Sinatra. The lyrics to the song are just odd enough that I thought it must be an LLM attempt to combine concepts from the American Songbook genre to produce something that sounded like it if you didn't look hard enough. "I've lost the only girl that I've found" is sort of odd, and what's with the blue pajamas?
But no, it's a totally legit songbook work from an Adirondacks campfire song to a broadway show in 1927 to a Fred Astaire film. But the joy of discovering that was ruined, because I was too busy worrying if I was a dope falling for AI slop.
For your pleasure:
https://youtube.com/watch?v=-h7BOxN-qRc
(The longer version was sadly hit by a guided copyright strike)
Sigh. I suppose this strengthens my usual point:
Stop worrying about "AI slop". You often won't be able to tell if it's AI, and it will, inevitably, become less sloppish. Dare I say, even good. Sure, you want to be able to tell if your Tinder date is catfishing you, or if the email or invoice you've received is real. It's of utmost importance to know if there's an epidemic of obese, suicidal women are throwing boulders on bridges in China.
But for everything else? A drawing is a drawing dawg, a song either sounds good or it doesn't. A work of fiction is no better or worse if meat machines or silicon wrote it (for the same assortment of letters in the same order).
This way lies zen, and the ability to happily partake in the post-scarcity supply side of the attention economy.
Of course, if you do genuinely value human authorship for reasons such as "soul" or the inability of machines to feel emotion, then good luck. You're going to need it.
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Dude, I've been on here... I don't remember actually, but a long time before I saw you show up. Taking your word that you aren't just feeding questions into the machine for whatever reasons -- your writing has become super ugly over the past six months or so. Your bluster only confirms that you've lost the plot as to what good writing even looks like.
(and you might want to read better if you think it's the bullet points)
I'll save you the bother. We've both been on themotte.org since September 2022. I've been a user of /r/TheMotte since just after it split off from the CWR thread on /r/SSC.
And in the span of 3 years, the only notable events in your mod log are two warnings. Not a single AAQC, and people stumble into those by accident. I'll welcome your criticism about my writing style when you write something to impress me first. Or even impress anyone, I don't select the nominees, those are largely on the basis of popular opinion. It takes as little as one person hitting report.
When someone like @Amadan or @2rafa or @phailyoor or.... criticizes my writing style or my very limited use of AI (in this case, exactly zero), I listen. When I didn't even use the damn thing, I'm not going to care very much about your unfounded concerns. If you don't like the self_made_human house style, you're entirely at liberty to not read it.
I see nothing wrong with the post above. It seems perfectly informative. I can't say whether or not your writing has changed, but you your recent posts seem perfectly well written.
I hate false AI accusations with a passion because they take away credibility from real ones. There's so much actual slop out there that's blindingly obvious.
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Since I got tagged in here:
I have no real opinion on your post that set this off, and believe you that you didn't use AI to write it.
I do think your style has gotten worse since you became such an AI enthusiast, mostly in that it is more wordy and "tryhard." I do strongly suspect it's the LLM influence, which you think is a good thing because they "write well," but the thing is, mostly they don't. They write very fluently. They can fill space with words, words that sometimes sound lyrical or profound, but... it's empty.
It's hard to describe without going into a much longer post about writing style, but it's very similar to the debate over AI art. I am not an AI art hater, I think occasionally it can produce really cool stuff, but mostly it's good for outputting placeholder art that gets the job done... you know, D&D characters or "I have a picture in my head that would be cool to see rendered but I don't want to pay someone to draw it" or bland corporate stuff. Notwithstanding Scott's AI Art Turing test, most AI art is very, very recognizeable as AI. You know the look: a little too polished, a little too saturated, a little too uniform in tone and shade and crosshatching (even when prompter tries to make it draw in different styles), an emptiness in the eyes... the illustration might be perfect in form, we don't see six-fingered hands or necklaces that meld with shoulders as much anymore, but it's still full of tiny details and stylistic choices that a human artist wouldn't make. And it's all very samey, like imagine every single artist in the world graduating from CalArts and trying as hard as possible to replicate the CalArts style.
AI writing is the same!
It's not just the tells (em-dashes, "It's not X, it's Y"), which like six-fingered hands and necklaces melding into shoulders, LLMs are starting to be trained not to do so predictably. It's the sameness, the pseudo-profound verbosity, the fluency that mistakes many pretty-sounding-words chained together in grammatically correct sentences as saying something prettily.
You are starting to write like a guy who reads LLM output and thinks "Yeah, that's good writing!" As if all those CalArts students were starting to take their art classes from ChatGPT and imitating LLM style instead.
Maybe in the future, maybe even in the near future, AI will improve enough to make this moot. We don't have LLMs that can write entire novels in one shot yet, and even with lots of prompting, the novels they can write are absolute crap. But I have no doubt people will read them, just like people read progressive fantasies and litrpgs that are absolute crap in terms of writing style (* cough * Reverend Insanity * cough * ) There is no accounting for taste, and some people don't actually care about style and craft and skill beyond basic get-the-job-doneness. "Give me words that tell a story, and make the story interesting. Give me pixels that form big round boobies and a waifu fuck-me face."
That's... fine, I guess? But don't mistake it for good.
I think that fact that you are defensive about this is kind of weird. Like you are insecure either about your own writing, or about the potential of LLMs, or about the intersection of those two things.
There's a writer on Medium I kind of casually follow for his trainwreck-of-a-life stories, and he gets dragged regularly for writing posts that scream "ChatGPT." He has admitted he uses AI for research, outlining, sometimes phrasing, but "he writes it all himself" and after another post that got a bunch of people calling him an LLM, he wrote a long, huffy, defensive post about how this is his writing style, this is how he's always written, ChatGPT is copying him, not the other way around, and fuck the haters. And, well, I guess I believe him if he says he's not actually letting ChatGPT write his posts for him (I don't, really, I think he's letting ChatGPT "outline" his posts and then he does some editing and tweaking and calls it "his writing"). But the degree of his defensiveness really convinced me he knows he's using too much AI in his writing.
Note that I am not saying you're doing the same thing, just... I think you know you're outsourcing too much to AI, and now you're getting pissy when people point it out.
On that note:
AI detectors are themselves not that reliable, since the ability to detect AI writing is a moving target, so posting "An AI detector said my writing is 100% human" is probably not that convincing to most people. (Just as many people have had the displeasure of seeing something they know they wrote themselves tagged as "almost certainly AI" by an AI detector.)
I do not think we should be using mod logs to tell people "You are a crap poster so I dismiss your argument."
I disagree! I do not think that the majority of LLM output is worth reading. That is not the same as LLMs being incapable of good writing. Getting something decent out of them takes effort. Not some kind of overcomplicated prompt engineering nonsense, but more effort than bad actors take.
To illustrate, I can truthfully claim that Xianxia as a genre is sloppy trash (most of it is) while simultaneously arguing that Reverend Insanity is peak fiction. The selection process is what allows for a recommendation.
As you can see, we have irreconcilable differences. Pistols at dawn?
I really can't win. If I stay quiet and ignore things: avoidant behavior. If I just say that, yeah, I've used AI, that is a no-contest. If I actually take a stand, then suddenly the lady doth protest too much. Nah, this lady has principles, and is willing to argue them.
I have heard claims that Pangram is better than most. For example, it's batting 100% here, admittedly, for a single sample. To the extent that people have used AI detectors on me in an attempt to shore up their argument that I'm using AI (in a post where I allude to the fact I'm using it), then I feel entitled to use them myself. If it works, then you believe in my probable innocence, if you believe it doesn't work, then you had no reason to consider me guilty beyond what I've already confessed.
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Not @jkf, and don't particularly want to get caught in this shit-storm. I also acknowledge I like your writing, I think it's some of the most consistent and interesting posting here. I also think you are a much better writer than me, so if that's your standard for receiving feedback feel free to just ignore the rest.
All that being said. It is uncanny, I have more than once in the last week been interacting with ChatGTP and thought "This could just as well be a Mechanical Turk and @self_made_human is on the other side." It's not just the use of bullet points, it's your tone, word choice, argument structure. It's not just the use of markdown, it's extremely machine like choice of formatting. I don't know what pangram looks for, they probably don't disclose to prevent people from gaming their system. And I'm not going to scrape the (already brittle) motte to do a textual analysis. But jfk is not the only one who has noticed that your writing has picked up somthing from ChatGTP.
Do you honestly not think your writing style has not changed at all over the course of three years? I think it's would be extraordinarily unlikely that someones writing style does not change at all over the course of years in their 20s. If you acknowledge your style has changed, is your claim it's directionality away from LLM style?
This strikes me a quite distasteful. It strikes me as someone being upset they got some criticism, then decided to use their mod powers to make an ad hominem attack rather than ignoring or addressing the criticism. If you really don't care what the lesser writers here think of your style, why bother to dig through the mod log?
Edit: I wanted to add. I'm not saying you shouldn't adopt LLM style if that's what you want. I'm saying if that's not what you want, look out for it. It's possible other people can see it in your writing before you do, and it would be sad to loose a unique and interesting voice because someone accidentally let theirs get co-opted by a machine.
My apologies. I was very annoyed, for what I hope were understandable reasons. I'm happy to accept feedback when it's not framed as a personal attack alongside, IMO, very poor justification. I'm happy to hear what you have to say!
Hmm.
The thing is, markdown is cool and incredibly powerful. LLM chatbots like ChatGPT (that aren't base models), are under heavy selection pressure to conform to human preferences. That means a convergence to certain norms, because the average user or RLHF monkey prefers! Headlines, emphasis, bullet points, em-dashes — they're all useful. They make text more legible and help it flow better.
In other words, I've come to appreciate the benefits to writing in a certain structure. I personally prefer it, and I think the majority do (by revealed preference) and it strikes some people as AI-like. The last bit is an unfortunate side effect.
(I would say a bigger influence is Scott. I'm a fanboy, and his advice is solid)
I'm not sure what you mean by a change in tone or word choice, though I make an intentional effort to be less acerbic these days.
However:
I do use AI, sometimes! I've never tried to hide it, or deny its influence when anyone asks. That does not mean that any of my posts are writtrn by AI. I use LLMs for research, fact checking, proof-reading and editorial purposes.
That usually entails writing a draft, then submitting it into an LLM for advice or critique, which I may or may not use.
I think this is entirely above board, and I champion its use. It is categorically not the same as throwing a prompt into a box and then getting the AI to do the heavy lifting. The AI is an editor, not a ghostwriter.
Precisely the opposite. My style has changed, for what I think is the better. I'd hope so, given that I must have written like 1-5 million words in between, including a novel. It has also become more LLM-like, but that is because I like some of the things LLMs do, and not because I'm replaced by an LLM. Case in point, I've never had anyone accuse me of including unsourced or inaccurate information, even when they're criticizing my style, because it's a point of pride that I always review anything an LLM tells me.
When I said:
I mean that that specific comment had zero AI in it, and is of a style that strikes me as self_made_human from a few years back, as raw as it gets. It was quickly jotted off, with none of the usual edits, revisions or edit passes I make a point of doing manually. It is as me as it gets, and wouldn't be out of place three years back. It lacks the effort and polish I aspire to today.
Hell, I was doubly mad because I made an intentional effort not to succumb to just asking him to check ChatGPT (which would have given him excellent advice on a topic as done to death as this one) since he clearly wanted a more personal touch. I didn't even ask ChatGPT to write boilerplate that I could have theoretically co-opted as my own. I saw the comment, noticed, hey, I'm actually studying NICE guidance on initiating and managing antidepressant usage, and decided to just scribble down my understanding of best practice. I am, after all, mostly a shrink, even if I'm got more shrinking to do.
So, here I am, providing what I hope is accurate and helpful advice, the old-fashioned way, and someone comes along and starts shit. I might be a moderator, but I have my limits. Anyone calling me a "slopmonger" can fuck right off. As this current example of discourse demonstrates, I am more than happy to be civil and take pains to explain myself if the other person extends me the same courtesy. I appreciate that you have.
https://www.themotte.org/post/2368/culture-war-roundup-for-the-week/354239?context=8#context
Here is a thread outlining my stance towards prior accusations of AI usage, where I am perfectly happy to acknowledge that I have used it (when I've actually used it). You'll notice that I've spent a great deal of time explaining the same thing to jkf in good faith, in an attempt to convince him of the merits of my stance. That hasn't worked, and I am offended by new accusations when the evidence on display is very clearly not AI. It's like someone going around with a loudspeaker telling people I'm a sex offender, when the rap was for public urination while drunk. Even if it was technically correct (it wasn't here), I have little energy to spare to have this argument again.
Alternatively, this:
https://www.themotte.org/post/2368/culture-war-roundup-for-the-week/354252?context=8#context
I don't think opening the moderation log is an abuse of mod power in any meaningful sense. Moderation actions are public, anyone can see them on the sidebar. The panel only shows me the ones linked to a specific user. I didn't slap him with a ban, or start a fight. Moderators are only human, mea culpa.
If he's going to call me a slopmonger, when I think I've got more than enough evidence of engagement (presumably high quality, though everyone is at liberty to form their own opinions, I'm not your dad, I think), then I feel within my rights to point out that he has almost nothing to his name, and what he does is negative. It's genuinely impressive to have been here so long and still achieve so little. Both lurking moar or engaging less are valid options.
And I hope that I have demonstrated, to your satisfaction, that I am usually open to criticism, and have, in fact, had this same conversation with him in the past.
I personally find attacks around past contributions somewhat distasteful, because it doesn't really address the argument itself directly. I'd much rather see "You're absolutely wrong, retard", than "post more before criticizing people".
If someone's so obviously wrong, you don't even have to explain why, as hopefully the intelligent audience will be able to tease out the truth just from having it pointed out.
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I'm not even against using a LLM to refine your writing. I wish I had so I wouldn't have made that annoying set of typos.
I do think that particular bit of criticism was poorly formed, and I would have been very annoyed as well. I didn't understand of all posts to try to call out like that you would choose that one. Somehow I thought it would be unhelpful to leave it as if it was just one user trolling you though.
Ironically, maybe that is what I've been noticing. I think, I'm probably unreasonably annoyed by that cloying droll persona that they give the average chatbot. I suppose, liking a slightly facetious and combative tone is slightly pathological on my part.
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ChatGPT (generative pre-trained transformer)
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People should be able to write comments in an orderly list format without being accused of using LLMs. I can assure you that the long comment that I posted today did not involve AI use despite including several lists.
If it makes you feel better, you have a very different writing voice than ChatGTP or other LLMs. Not in a bad way! I come to the forum to interact with real people, if they all sounded like chatting with ChatGTP there wouldn't be a point.
Our Dear Doktor on the other hand. Very compelling posts sometimes. Very well articulated. Very well formated. But I prompted ChatGTP yesterday, and got a response so similar to his tone and style I did a double take. I'm actually not accusing him of using more LLM than he has let on. My reaction to the experience was "I have to be sure this doesn't happen to me, what if I'm vulnerable to letting ChatGTP gradually replace my voice"
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Like I said, it's entirely plausible that he's just picked up the tics through hours of reading the output of these things (and thinking that it's good) -- which in a way is even more horrifying than the idea that he'd use one for a pretty simple question about a topic upon which he's somewhere in the ballpark of an SME.
It's not (only) about the lists tho...
Bruh. Let me summon @Throwaway05 :
Do you think it's possible to make recommendations or suggestions about antidepressant usage without heavily stressing the importance of a full physical to rule out medical causes for low mood?
Do you think the information given by OP was sufficient to make a clinical recommendation beyond the most universally applicable points?
I strongly suspect he's going to back me up there. Since the facts aren't really in dispute, all that's left is finding a certain string of letters to convey the message. I see nothing "AI" about my choice of phrasing, that's just... normal writing. It's oodles less formal than what I might for in an actual effortpost, because it was smashed out in 5 minutes in the middle of a study session.
To the extent that the 'best' "AI detectors" don't think it's AI at all, I'm very curious to know what stylistic tells you imagine you see, and then an effort to compare it with my earliest writing. I'm not going to bother, I've already put in more than sufficient effort, and I am generally honest about using LLMs. If and when I do use them.
I imagine the issue is that we (physicians) have a tendency to write with certain tics, these not seeming like normal writing to most people.
Since you've AI'ed a bunch already I imagine others are going to see that and make assumptions?
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I can't imagine this is something that should or could be best treated with pills.
My guess: you need schema therapy. Emotional memory reconsolidation. You can do it yourself with some knowledge and guided meditation audio files, or with a therapist (but finding a competent one can be a crapshoot). I'll send you a pm tomorrow if you're interested.
Never heard of this before but I'm interested. Lay it on me.
PM sent.
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Here is a good explanation of schema therapy: https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/i9xyZBS3qzA8nFXNQ/book-summary-unlocking-the-emotional-brain
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I went down to visit my father over the weekend. As soon as I walked through the door, he asked me to sit down with him on a call he was on with an estate lawyer. Due to all the various contingencies, I am in line as a guardian for my youngest brother as well as a trustee for his bequests.
He also wanted to be there when discussing what he wants to leave me. My father has always lived fairly simply, and I didn't realize he was as well off as he was. He apologized that he couldn't leave me more, then told me what his intentions were.
It's a life-changing amount. I don't think I'd be able to retire today with it, but it moves my retirement horizon from 20 years from now to like... four years from now.
The whole time he was going over it, all I could think was "I don't want any of that. I just want my dad." It's an absolute mindfuck. I don't want to think about it at all, but it's very important to him that I have a plan on how to be responsible with anything that he leaves me.
End stage cancer treatment is very expensive, so all of this is up in the air, but I need to think about how to handle this.
On the purely medical front, the side effects of the chemo don't seem to be nearly as bad as he feared it would be. He's also on an enormous cocktail of drugs meant to keep those side effects under control. At least one of those drugs is an anti-psychotic, and at least one is an antidepressant. They're being used off label for appetite stimulation and nausea, but they're still having psychological effects. He's in a weird state where he knows he should be more distressed than he is, and he knows that should distress him as well, but it just doesn't.
Side effects or not, at least he's eating now. He's lost enough weight that I can feel his bones when I hug him. We're all hoping that the appetite improvement keeps up. The doctors have said that losing too much weight during chemo can be harmful.
My youngest brother seems to be taking things better than I have been. I don't know if it's because he's compartmentalizing, or if he just hasn't grasped the magnitude of what is happening, or if it's because this has been going on for such a long part of his short life already that he's had a chance to come to terms with it. Thankfully, he has a huge extended family who are always there to support him.
My step-mother is trying hard to keep it together. She and my father run a small business together and she's trying to pick up the slack.
I've been trying to help out with household tasks whenever I'm down, but she's very particular and it feels like trying to help just results in more work for her. I want to help, but I'm not really sure how I can other than just physically being there because my father likes to have me around. Unfortunately, that means that I get to sit in a chair as my dad falls asleep and I get to listen to him struggle to breathe.
I'm not sure if I'm really looking for advice here, because I don't know what to ask.
Maybe the only thing I really can ask is what you can do to help someone who's clearly overloaded, but can't stand it when something isn't done the way they would do it, and doesn't know how to explain what they want?
I had testicular cancer ~decade ago. I was the same way during chemo. I didn't like it when other people did "stuff" for me (don't like how they do it, don't want to be a burden, don't want other people's pitty, etc). But I very much appreciated a good game of chess. From other people I've talked to in similar situations, "fun" stuff is can be more well received than "help" stuff.
The help side is mostly for his wife, who's kind of overwhelmed.
With my dad, I've been watching more football than I have in years, since that's what he wants to do now.
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My suggestion based on some limited experience is to help in ways they care less about but also take effort: if not household tasks like cooking and cleaning, maybe it's running errands and getting groceries, fixing things around the house, or maybe it's handling mail, bills, paperwork, and tax prep.
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Getting back into a supplement kick. Starting with L-theanine 200mg/day, Creatine 5mg/day, a multivitamin, and a homemade hydration drink with some salt, and a pinch of magnesium malate + potassium chlorate.
Any other general things I could try or think about?
Nattokinase!
Do you have an opinion on dosage?
10,000 FU is what I've heard recommended
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What does this do?
Reduces arterial plaque, and a few other little benefits too.
At the 10,000 FU dose level, which I ran for about three months.
Brief discussion of it here:
https://www.themotte.org/post/2732/culture-war-roundup-for-the-week/357853?context=8#context
I started it after @thejdizzler recommended and my cholesterol did indeed see significant reduction.
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I've started taking ZMA in an attempt to dampen an overactive cortisol awakening response. It seems like it's helping a little.
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D3... lots of it, especially when you're not getting much sunshine. Omega-3, preferably in liquid form. K2 MK-7 to make the D3 act correctly. B12 if you're not eating meat.
Hmmm theoretically these come in the multivitamin? But I'm assuming you mean doing it more.
It's been my experience that in the winter the amount in a multivitamin isn't enough. Also, the vitamin K in most multivitamins usually doesn't include K2 mk7, which is really important for making sure that your body puts calcium in your bones and not your circulatory system.
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Depending on where you live, you're likely getting much less Vitamin D in the winter.
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Umm, if getting all the useful stuff was as simple as taking a multivitamin a day there'd be no need for all the other supplements. You need the right form and the right amount for them to be effective. They need to be bio-available.
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I've been sick for four weeks at this point. I'm finally seeing a light at the end of the tunnel.
First it was some kind of flu or cold, which turned into just a lingering runny nose, but then that turned into bronchitis. During that time my family and I all got lice. Now I have a tongue ulcer that makes it painful to eat or cough.
Talking and laughing lead to more coughing so I've been avoiding both for about three weeks.
It's just low-grade misery. I'm so done with it. Want my health back.
Lots of people got absolutely obliterated this year, it isn't just you!
...hope that helps?
Ha that's what I heard. Sadly my wife got hit hard too, which is the hardest to deal with when both of us are sick and still have three active kids to take care of.
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I've had mild success healing a tongue ulcer by packing it with salt for 30 - 60 seconds once a day for a day or two.
It's really uncomfortable, but it does seem to make it heal faster for some reason that I don't understand. I think it kills bacteria that are interfering with the healing?
Mine usually only last a day or two anyways. I'll try a saline rinse in a day if it seems worse. Got a little better today.
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Netti pot has been helping me a lot with this!
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Sorry to hear my man, that sounds awful.
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New Year's Goals Planning on doing these updates every week to keep myself accountable
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What is your interested in Tarot?
I think it's a powerful tool to connect with my subconscious. This guy on substack puts it best.
Just pray brother. Or read Meditations on the Tarot by Tomberg.
Have that book and am working my way through it slowly!
Oooh lovely. How'd you stumble upon it?
I'd be curious for your thoughts.
My roommate gave it to me for Christmas last year! I will let you know what I think after I've read it: I'll likely make a post on here and on my blog.
Your roommate sounds based as hell.
He is in a lot of ways! Definitely making a much more honest effort to thread the needle between Christianity and esoteric practices than I am (I have basically given up on the Christianity part, which is laziness). However, he's also very dysfunctional in a lot of other ways: he doesn't have a whole lot of agency so he ends up stuck in ruts/patterns that he doesn't like but can't get out of.
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I'm asking in a spirit of curiosity and not of attack: how does one come to participate in this practice? What made you do it for the first time? Did you regret it at the time? Leaving aside moral disgust, do you feel like you get your money's worth?
I've never in my life paid for internet pornography (I have purchased the odd vintage magazine, and Mrs. FiveHour has a fondness for vintage Playboy calendars and puzzles as home decor, so strictly speaking I have paid for nude images of women). It always feels like a sharp line for me, where doing so would cause me to cross into some new kind of behavior and I recoil from it. In the same way that I can imagine eating or drinking a drug, I eat or drink other drugs and something stronger is a soft line, but I don't know how one comes to inject drugs.
For me it started when I was broken up with in the summer by a girl who was just not interested in me sexually. This did not make me feel good: not being desired sexually has always been a weak point in my otherwise pretty self-confident/self-assured persona. This left me pretty vulnerable to falling down the PornHub sales funnel of a star I liked. The experience made me feel pretty good in the moment: the women/bots are fairly good at making you feel wanted sexually, although if you look at it from the outside it's absurd because they have so little information about you (maybe a photo and a dozen messages). Afterwards I pretty much immediately regretted it: I deleted my account seconds after satisfying myself. Of course I didn't forget that the high was much better than regular porn, so whenever I felt particularly bad about myself I would relapse. I have, however, been completely clean since shortly after the New Year.
In terms of my moneys worth, if one thinks about it like a drug, it's not a terrible deal. These women's pages are usually around ~$5/month, but you end up paying extra for better content when you're interacting with them. I probably spent about $20/session, which is a lot, but not worse than what you would have to spend on alcohol or stronger drugs (weed I think is much cheaper).
I don't generally have problems with addictions in other areas of my life. I've never felt the need to drink more than a beer or two, and always need months or years long breaks between using weed or LSD. But sliding down the OnlyFans rabbit hole was a wake up call that maybe I do have some kind of masturbation/pornography addiction. The OnlyFans stuff really is a step up in degeneracy as you point out, but the whole edifice is rotten and needs to be knocked down. I'd like to stop caring so much about if women desire me or not (which is something I frankly can't control, and judging from statistics, is something that most men have to face). I also would be completely turned off by similar behavior from the opposite sex (gooning to romance novels), so before bitching more about how I don't have a girlfriend/am not married I should genuinely try to fight this addiction, which maybe means going to stuff like AA meetings.
Anyway thanks for reading all this.
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Yeah, I've always drawn the line at paying for stuff, both because it feels like you're now financing your vice and because it feels cheating-adjacent, like sexting with your coworker or going to a strip club.
But I can understand why I would do it if my principles were weaker. Sometimes you stumble upon someone who just ticks 99% of your boxes and you want to see more, you think that if you get her to put shoe on head or wear a choker or strike just the right pose you will immediately reach that gooner nirvana.
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