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Wellness Wednesday for January 14, 2026

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New Year's Goals Planning on doing these updates every week to keep myself accountable

  1. Work: Finished a figure this week. Instituted a Cold Turkey block on texting/whatsapp/distracting websites (including theMotte) that has been a huge help for productivity. Raw hours still not there.
  2. Fitness: hit 8.5 hours last week and will be at 9 this week. Build up from here will be much slower. Still haven't been able to fully kick my cold, but NetiPot has been helping a lot.
  3. Intellectual stuff. Feeling a bit overwhelmed with all the books I'm wanting to read +making sure I get in Spanish and Italian immersion. Just got be disciplined about hitting my minimums and not multitasking.
  4. On track for this month financially! Cat sitting to earn a bit of extra money.
  5. This week has been bad for porn and masturbation. I'll come out and say it that I was really disregulated last year. Masturbating every day and sometimes even paying for OnlyFans despite knowing that this was terrible for me and that I was probably talking with a bot. I've luckily stopped doing that, but still have a long way to go.
  6. Tarot continues to go well.
  7. Screen time is hovering around 2 hours on my phone but is down on my computer after I implemented two rules: the block on distractions during work hours and no browsing while eating.

What is your interested in Tarot?

I think it's a powerful tool to connect with my subconscious. This guy on substack puts it best.

Just pray brother. Or read Meditations on the Tarot by Tomberg.

Have that book and am working my way through it slowly!

Oooh lovely. How'd you stumble upon it?

I'd be curious for your thoughts.

My roommate gave it to me for Christmas last year! I will let you know what I think after I've read it: I'll likely make a post on here and on my blog.

Your roommate sounds based as hell.

He is in a lot of ways! Definitely making a much more honest effort to thread the needle between Christianity and esoteric practices than I am (I have basically given up on the Christianity part, which is laziness). However, he's also very dysfunctional in a lot of other ways: he doesn't have a whole lot of agency so he ends up stuck in ruts/patterns that he doesn't like but can't get out of.

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