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Wellness Wednesday for February 8, 2023

The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:

  • Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.

  • Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.

  • Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.

  • Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).

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Thanks for sharing. Personally all of the “your personality is fixed by 25” stuff seems completely bunk to me. I know people who have barely changed from 15 to 25, and people who undergo full transformations from 25 to 28. It really depends on where you’re at and what your thinking is like.

I will say I believe there is some inertia to thinking. Thoughts tend to wear grooves in your mind, for lack of a better word. The trick is to learn to observe your mind, and try to shift your thoughts towards something more positive or beneficial.

This can be a Herculean task on your own. All the standard advice about friends, therapy, exercise and health activities applies here and helps.

If you’re really at a loss, I’d recommend trying some type of substance. Do some research, but a very small dose of marijuana or a psychedelic can let you glimpse entirely different ways of thinking and being in the world. Once you realize it’s possible, it becomes much easier to work towards.