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How convenient it's only we knuckle-dragging mouth breathers who object to your reasonable proposal!
Every time I see this argument in the wild. Every. God. Damn. Time. It's maybe not a troll, but it is a guy who genuinely wants to stick his dick into underage pussy and feels unfairly victimised by society who think 30-40 year old men should not be eyeing up 13 year olds for their big racks. Of course society is made up of the stupid and the really intelligent deep thinkers like Underage Pussy For Me guys are the victims of their unreasonable distaste.
Either you've got a lousy memory, or you're calling me a liar.
I do have a terrible memory, so I didn't remember you were one of the "it's perfectly normal for older men to want to fuck pubescent girls" types.
You claim it's not because of such attraction on your part, but pure devotion to scientific fact? Well, you have your claims as to motives, I have my beliefs as to motives, and since nobody is a mind-reader, all such will remain in the privacy of our skulls.
Unfalsifiable beliefs are pretty weak sauce. There are very few things more antithetical to the purpose of this place than do this kind of bulverism in the pursuit of defending taboos.
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Devotion to liberty.
I don't believe I've ever said that there aren't 12-year-old girls that I find sexually attractive. I haven't said that because it'd be untrue; while I'm not a paedophile in the proper sense, there are some very-early bloomers out there and, indeed, postpubescence is all that's really needed for the normal male gaze to approve. However, I have no intention of pursuing them in that fashion, and this is not related to my opposition to the current Anglospheric ages of consent.
Do you realise that you've set up epistemic closure, here? If someone says that he wants to lower the AoC because he wants to fuck kids, you count him as part of your "every time". If someone says the opposite, you count him as a liar and still as part of "every time". That's not an algorithm that depends on what the truth actually is; regardless of the evidence, you'll simply become more sure of yourself.
I actually suggest you take a look through my post history. See if I'm really the sort to lie about myself.
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15 and 20, not 13 and 40. Male feelings matter too.
Male feelings when it's a 20 year old guy wanting to fuck a girl who was still playing with dolls when he was her age are about "me horny" and nothing more elevated.
And why not 13 and 40? If we're going to argue that "such an age is only arbitrary, this age is plenty old enough to make up their mind, in Classical times women were married by then", then why put upper limits on the loving MAP man? Why not 15 and 60, if it comes to that?
What age do girls stop playing with dolls? Do they play with them at 14? They're playing with dolls during their freshman year of high school?
If guy is 20 now and girl is 15, when guy was 15 girl was 10. Can you not do simple arithmetic?
No one is attracted to 10 year olds. They get together at 15 and 20, then time goes forwards, not backwards.
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