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Additional factors, speaking personally:
All the pronatal propaganda is making it clear that being a father is extra hard if you're not in your early twenties, so I'm already at only the second best age to become one;
Even the top countries are getting doompilly about AI-related lack of opportunity and meaning in society in a decade or two, and my country is likely to be behind on AI and so get the worst of both worlds, just like it's the worst of both worlds between liberalism and tradness at the moment.
As others mentioned, unless you already live in a world where you get a mandatory wife at 18, you can't have children unless you have a female partner amicable to it. At the moment, I don't have one at all, and dating in modernity as someone who doesn't already have big in-person social circles has already been discussed to death.
My job would allow plenty of time for children, but not if I want to support my wife and get an apartment that will fit us. And it appears to be an absolutely miserable time to switch jobs right now, since, again, total industry upheaval. I'm only comfortable right now because we have legacy code and non-yuppie upper management.
Na, especially as the dad, you just shouldn't be very old, i.e. in retirement when they are in high school. Especially since, despite all the talk, many women really want to be the primary carers for the kids anyway. For that reason and simply due to fertility issues the situation for women is different, but even for them plenty of pronatalists actually consider late twenties the best time.
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