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How did he meet her? Was it outside of school, or was it "she attended the high school beside the primary school where he taught"? Because my old school was the same: primary school on one side of the road, secondary school attached to it on the other side.
Maybe Mr. Pester the Molester didn't teach her, but knew her from being in the school area. If he started dating her after she graduated and she wasn't even graduated three months, then that sounds more like him hitting on her before hand but waiting until she was legal before he dipped his wick, as it were.
If it could be shown that he had no idea who she was and only met her in the grocery store or someplace, okay I'll bite. But as it stands, it sounds bit like "26 year old has his eye on 17 (or 16? or however old she was when he started work in the school) student, starts a relationship, waits until she's legal to bang her" and that's "teacher grooms student" however you wrap it.
Did Emmanuel Macron's parents 'punish' him for trying to break him and his married with kids his age teacher up? We know they persisted until he was legally old enough and they eventually got married, but I don't think anyone is going to accuse the parents of 'cruel and unusual punishment' there:
I mean, this is the part that is making me go "hmmm":
Same day she graduated high school? So same day she was legal and no longer (as he thought) liable to be classed as a student where he's a teacher? Yeah, that's cutting it a leeetle too close to satisfy me.
EDIT: And guess what, Deep is omitting little bits from the story:
So, while he may not have been her teacher, he did encounter her while she was still at school and we don't know how much contact (grooming) he had with her.
Police update from January 2026 and one question was if the girl was 18 then or is 18 now. Age of consent in Nebraska is 16, so he's clear on that.
So on the face of it, young teacher has his eye on student, waits until she graduates to start dating her, but moves it up a bit too fast before the three month limit is up. Whether you think this is potentially grooming or an adult relationship and he's being victimised, that's up to everyone's opinion.
The curious point is, who informed on them? Parents? Girl herself (did he dump her and this is revenge)? Jealous ex-boyfriend or girlfriend of either party?
If he wasn't her teacher or instructor, then no, it's not.
From what stories online I can find, he was (1) a high school wrestling coach as well as being sixth grade teacher and (2) it's reported they met at athletic events. So presumably if she was on a school sports team, or attending events where there were school teams competing, that's how they met even though he didn't teach her in class. And that's more than just "they hooked up after she graduated high school", so there is definitely a whiff of "maybe he cultivated her" in the air.
How old she was when they met at these athletic events, or how long the friendship leading to romance was going on before she graduated, they started communicating via text in May 2025 and then in July 2025 they had sex, I don't know. But it does sound more on the end of the scale of "he persuaded her into a relationship and then sex" rather than the end of the scale "they met outside of school and had never had any contact prior to that".
She's 17, he's a teacher (but a young male teacher), that kind of attention is flattering. And the possibility there is that there is enough lingering deference to authority figure from school that maybe she wasn't able to tell him no.
I don't know. Nobody knows for sure. Maybe she was happy with the entire thing and doesn't feel that she was pressured into it! The intriguing part of the story is 'who was the mysterious informant who made the complaint, and what were their motives'?
The charge is "inappropriate relationship" and nothing more serious:
If he was supervising her or coaching, it'd be something else, but it seems they just met bc they were both involved in wrestling in some way. Thinking a guy who's just what, 26 is a creep for liking a 17 year old is just nuts.
I don't think we need to infantilize teenagers nor demonize adults who find them attractive. And no, I'm not saying that because I like teens - probably like them less than a median guy. I just dislike this bullshit and anti-biological sanctimony.
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