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I can relate to this quite a bit, and I think the whole dating app experience has made me quite indifferent to most women in general. I'd rather have my independence than date or marry someone I don't like.
It was a terrible thing to notice that the mere act of swiping across 100 profiles makes me feel more indifference towards them all.
It isn't helped by the fact that most profiles converge on 1 of like 3 archetypes.
And then getting a handful of matches, engaging in the best playful banter you can manage, then having the interest peter out and then unmatch without a date and its clear that there's no point to investing feelings.
No individual connection has value at that point.
Do share.
In my local area you have:
The nominally conservative country girl who loves church and outdoorsy stuff and the beach. But there's usually some tell on her profile that she's not REALLLY ready to settle down. Beach photos in a bikini often somewhere on the profile, and THAT'S usually how you find out if she's gone heavy on the tattoos or not. Photos of her wearing cowboy gear, hanging out with the girlies, and sometimes holding a fish.
The career-first lady, always has the professional outfits, usually has travel photos, usually subtly implies that she makes more than you. Usually in their mid-late twenties, these are good prospects but the question is always 'why hasn't someone snatched you up.' Gym selfies are the raciest thing they'll post. Rarely tatted up.
Nurses. Oh so many nurses. Usually the most direct about what they expect/look for, and almost always have some racy pics in clubwear, or bikini, or just something casually suggestive. The vague message seems to be "I'm hot and approachable but NOT. EASY."
80% of the time happily displaying tats.
Less common but comes up as well are the bartenders/service workers who are either the ones who are actually modest in their expectations or the least aware of relatively low status.
There's a deluge of single moms but I filter those.
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