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It Just so Happens that as your looks improve—your personality, social and flirting skills, and perceived showering frequency all somehow automatically improve with women as well without any further work or life changes.
Doesn't this make logical sense?
Sometimes I do feel like there's a kind of opposite effect for men where if a 8+ starts being friendly to me for no obvious reasons my immediate reaction is 'wait what's the angle/scam here' as opposed to 'woah this beautiful person has randomly decided to kindle a friendshi'
I mean, one of the few situations where an average man will suddenly find himself on the receiving end of attention from multiple attractive women is going to a (decent) strip club. Where, of course, they are trained and optimized for getting you to pay as much money as quickly as possible.
So you figure out real quick that attractive women showing spontaneous interest are usually being put up to it by some other third party with other motivations.
And it is very hard to identify the rare case where the intentions are genuine, and the further along you go trying to figure it out, the more you're exposing yourself to whatever scam is being run.
One time I made a profile on a sugar-daddy website, and had the crazy experience of the hot women (well, assuming they were real) crowding into MY inbox. Including, through random utter chance, I girl I knew from high school.
Quite the clearpill for me.
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