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Culture War Roundup for the week of March 2, 2026

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There's a point there, but the whole issue is that women aren't accepting such correction or coaching.

Men hear the coaching, many will attempt to apply it, and after they put in the work they may even notice improvement but, I'd suggest, rarely do the rewards scale with the effort required. This becomes disheartening. If they complain, the only advice is 'man up and try hard.' Over and over again.

Women, by and large, will interpret attempts to coach or correct them as a critique, will often react badly to this critique, reject it outright, and go to their girl's groupchat or post a tiktok to complain about people trying to 'control women's behavior' and they'll immediately have their opinion confirmed and validated by other women (and the male orbiters) and watch a dozen other videos which claim she's empowered for standing her ground.

They're much more ensconced in a media environment that coddles their emotions and confirms their biases overall.

So attempting to do one on one uplifting of individual women when there's an entire Billion-dollar multimedia edifice screaming the opposite in their ear will probably be ineffective in most cases.

It could still be worth doing, but can we at least be honest about the source of the issue?

I daresay one major reason so many feel completely comfortable heaping shame and pressure on men but leave women's behavior alone is the tacit admission that women won't accept influence or advice from someone they do not respect, and so they wouldn't listen at all (or would attack the person).

There's a point there, but the whole issue is that women aren't accepting such correction or coaching.

Not from non-attractive men, that is - and those are incidentally the only social group willing to coach them. It's a deadlock.