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Wellness Wednesday for March 4, 2026

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I'm sitting in a waiting area at my father's local hospital. What should have been a routine procedure was not routine, and he developed an arrhythmia. His wife let me know and I violated several traffic laws making the trip down.

We can't visit yet, but the doctors have said that he should be fine, but it really was a shock. When he was first diagnosed, the doctors said that 90% of patients do not see the cancer recur. The routine biopsy nearly killed him, and we found that the cancer had not only recurred, but was metastatic. Now, he has had another near miss with another supposedly routine procedure.

You never know when someone is going to go. If they're important to you, spend as much time with them as you can. Believe me when I say that it won't be enough.

That really sucks.

Has he found peace with the life he has lived? I think much of the fear of death comes from the feelings of having things left undone.

His biggest concern is that he has another son that he had much later in life. He's afraid he won't see him graduate from high school.

Hmm.

But this younger son will (presumably) graduate regardless of whether his father is there to see it or not. And the essential thing for a father to succeed as a father isn't primarily down to how long they supported and loved their children, but more about how and what foundation they leave behind. Will anyone else be able to mentor your brother? Would your father recording/creating some audios or videos or other objects help him with enduring beyond death in some way?

So far, he's mostly focusing on maximizing the chances that he'll make it over that finish line. This has all been very sudden.

That seems like a sub-optimal strat, if I may say so. :/

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