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Maybe I'm just built different, but all that collective guilt shit always reads as either a confesion, a projection, or moral weakness to me.
Yeah, I'm a feminist. I'm also a flawless adonis placed on earth as an example to be followed. I don't feel guilty for shit, if I've fucked up in the past I simply don't do that thing again, and if anyone tries to make me feel bad about it I simply don't, because I'm not so bitchmade that people tut tutting me keeps me up at night.
Secondly: Also, all that "Girls like jerks" talk is a self report. Girls don't like jerks! Everyone alive likes confidence, and one way to have confidence is to enjoy being cruel to people!
Some statistically congruent portion of women are stupid and fail to see the blatant signs, just like some men are stupid and let themselves get DA'd and SA'd because they're manly men, and manly men don't get raped or abused; bitches do, so whatever is happening must not be rape or abuse because then they would be a bitch and they aren't, as they go to the bar for the sixth day in a row instead of coming home to feel sad about having a FUCKING GIRLFRIEND, not even a wife! A girlfriend! Silence knowledge workers, Someone is telling you they were in construction without telling you they were in construction.
That is the main problem with the manosphere IMO: It presents a set of values and structures that cause men who truly buy in to justify being taken advantage of both by other men and women instead of simply Hitting Da Bricks.
Apparently, the zeitgeist has turned away from "bad boys." It's not the 90s anymore. Not going to college and having served time isn't hot anymore. This is what I'm picking up at least from black YouTube. (My ex - Boalt Law school-bound at the time - once said I was slightly hotter to her after explaining I'd gone to continuation school, didn't graduate on time. I don't see a woman saying that nowadays.) To what degree does this suggest that women don't in fact want jerks?
Is the current Zeitgeist turned towards "himbos," then?
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There are some dumbasses out there that want someone that will fuck their whole life up; it isn't gender segregated. I come from a poor background so I seen more of it than most people who were born upper middle; the poor whites especially love to date the exact drunk/high piece of shit who was their mother/father. Shit is tragic.
But, outside of the people who are going to find some way to self destruct, even in the past the bad boy thing was the media hallucination of the time to make middle aged men shake their heads slowly and middle aged women tut tut and give all them oldies the opportunity to feel superior to the youth. The avocado toast of their day, as it were.
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