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The point is that tattoos are, in fact, normalized and a far less reliable sign of dysfunction than they once were. The most basic bitch people get them, albeit if you see full sleeves and facial tattoos, I'd be cautious. The association with impulsivity and poor decision making, while very much real, also doesn't matter if you are able to apply basic judgement to behavior and context. I'd date and marry women with tattoos, at least tasteful ones.
And I put up those sticky notes for nothing, let alone the permanent marker on our skin. Just don't break anything, and the dog wasn't too sick. With the rate we're replacing houseplants, we've got to work on cutting down veterinary expenses.
Yes, normalizing things means you get more 'normal' people doing them.
Which is often not good.
And of course pushes the actual deviants to ever more costly signalling to boot.
I'd suggest we are seeing the same thing with OF/sex work, and that's the broader reason why pushback would be good.
I spent an hour in the shower scrubbing those off last time, and I still had to wear long sleeves for the next two days. I'd prefer you just staple the notes straight to our chest.
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