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I took an OCEAN quiz recently and scored low on agreeableness. This was bit shocking to me because as a child and young adult I was always very agreeable, sometimes almost a doormat. After reflecting a bit I concluded that the quiz was right and I really have become a less agreeable person. I think that the weight of responsibility and the limited amount of time I have now has just reduced my patience for pleasantries and circumlocution. I'm not an "asshole" (I think), I'm just direct and to the point.
My neuroticism also dropped from moderate to low. But everything else stayed the same.
How has your personality changed over your life?
Don't think my personality has changed at all or if it has, hardly so. People aren't very good when it comes to their own self-conceptualization and how they imagine themselves to be. Circumstance and local conditions modulate how the different aspects of your psychology express themselves so where you place the emphasis on the spectrum is never going to seem completely accurate because it's always shifting around a bit before you run into regression to the mean.
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