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I've posted here often enough and have been honest and genuine. Sometimes the weird niche forum really does attract the upper class investor, two doctors, and other crazy weirdos like the weird gal who talks too much about parenthood and has been on more than the average number of long road trips and all that comes from that. I posed on here a few months ago that I would have loved to be a truck driver, so an anecdote about a road tip is pretty on brand for me.
I also verified just now that my husband remembers it the same as I do, that he does also think I saved our lives that one time which is why he's trying to be patient for all the other times.
I can't show absolute proof though so whatever. For what it's worth, I don't think my comment "contradicts the generalization." I openly admit that I have interrupted my husband on many more occasions where it wasn't so helpful.
It doesn't help that you misquoted me. That makes me think you are trying to push an agenda, either consciously or subconsciously.
That being said, it's a bit of a moot point. There is no doubt that there have been occasions when backseat-driving has produced a positive result. I doubt that you have actually experienced such a situation, but I will concede that someone else out there probably has.
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