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In tangentially related gender war news, Iraqveteran8888 got divorce raped.
For those who don't know he was one of the bigger gun enthusiast YouTube channels back in the day.
He's taking it in stride. Dropping a banger Top 5 Guns to Keep After Divorce. And a If Guns Were Women video. Giving us a hint of where his head is at.
Not knowing the circumstance around the divorce, it's hard to tell how much sympathy one should dole out, but regardless of that its always hard for me to wrap my head around how men still manage to end up homeless and without any material possessions after a divorce.
The contrast of seeing an old school gender war story and the ongoing disaster of UK modernity is... bleak. None of the old problems were resolved, we just added new ones to make things even worse.
But it's not as if the gender warriors of yesteryear had any solutions. In fact, their prescriptions for young men were to not get married at all. That's not good for the constantly declining marriage or TFR. I remember the prevailing MGTOW divide between going full hermit or not largely revolved around the ugly truth that women would just replace you with sub-par foreigners. Weird to see how that played out in reality.
That's the extreme end of things, but the child support orders in some locations are beyond absurd (very state-dependent). Plenty of family court judges follow the "kids must live the mother unless she's an unstable, drug-addicted BPD psycho" rule regardless of what any written law says (they can always justify it as "best interests of the child," which is usually the controlling standard), so mother stays in the family home with kids, father must pay his share of the mortgage for that family home he's no longer living in, and then must also pay child support. Maybe even paying some spousal support/alimony depending on the state (less common than it used to be). Unless he's making a lot of money, the tiny apartment and barely getting by suddenly becomes reality.
Yeah, its usually the child support that really takes a bite out of the guy's ability to support himself. Instead of living in a house with the wife and kids... now he's paying to make sure the kids are given a decent living arrangement without him there... and if he wants to have the kids over he needs to find a living arrangement that isn't viewed as dangerous to them, so he's gotta pay extra for his own living space to be up to par too.
Florida passed some laws to put a harder cap on alimony, but if you divorce with a kid, or multiple kids under 10 years, you're getting stuck with quite the bill over the next 10 years.
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The simple answer here is to make sure you marry a woman with comparable assets and a career so you can divorce rape her. There are a bunch of famous female celebrities recently that have gotten divorce raped by their lower-earning male ex-partner. I imagine the DR happens more when you marry some woman who becomes a stay at home mom who you have kids with.
The courts see woman + kids and "balance" the income for the woman and then "balance" it again for the kids. ie: 100% income (male) 0% income (woman) -> divorce: 50% M and 50% F -> each give half to the kids, 25% M & 75% F as women are assumed to be primary caretakers.
It's a big reason to maintain a two income household as well, even if childcare ends up costing most of the second paycheck. Marital assets are generally going to be 50/50, but it's a lot harder for a woman to argue for alimony if she has been working full-time for most of the marriage.
Yes the non-tongue and cheek answer is that this is a problem that has been semi-solved by having a more egalitarian relationship with both partners working at a comparable income. Assortative mating within your socio-economic class leads to stable relationships. I'm not sure where IraqVeteran8888 falls into the spectrum, but my shot in the dark is that a guntuber is conservative -> trad relationship -> Wife stayed home to take care of the kids and do the home making -> bigger alimony payment when divorce happens.
The other observation, though probably more charged, is that average gender warriors opinion of women getting the short end of the stick through their own actions in the dating, is to say "you should have picked better, or actually cared about the red flags". Unfortunately that same advice applies to men in the marriage market. Don't marry Stacy because she's hot and wants to raise your kids if she also is the type of vindictive or mercenary to take you to the cleaners in the divorce.
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