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Culture War Roundup for the week of April 20, 2026

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I did suggest some other ways of phrasing it, and outlined why I think the way he said it does more harm than good. If you are correct that women will twist your words from "Avoid dangerous and violent men" to "be a good domestic housewife and serve your man that you don't really like" then I honestly don't know what to say. At that point you are literally making up words and putting them in my mouth.

What else is he supposed to say in the political environment he's in?

I think that he should either give actual advice that can help women (traits to stay away from) or at least avoid causing undue worry through his phrasing. "Call the police when you are in trouble" would have also been useless, but it would have sufficed as a politically neutral and non-inflammatory response.

Because too many of them will accept continued abuse before they will ever accept accountability. "I shouldn't have any obligation to reflect on harm reduction, because people shouldn't behave this way." This is symptom of what I call "living in the should be universe." Regardless of what should be the case that's the way that things are. And if you deal with the way things are, you'll often find that life becomes much more navigable and leads to better overall outcomes rather than walking into situations expecting everything to conform to your idealized picture of the world.

These are problems with people's value systems. A psychopath on one hand is somewhat more forgivable for this hideous acts only on the grounds that they're quite literally mentally deficient people who need professional management. Someone who abuses and manipulates others because they are selfish and were trained to think all their lives that it's simply "okay" to treat people this way are far worse people.

If you are correct that women will twist your words from "Avoid dangerous and violent men" to "be a good domestic housewife and serve your man that you don't really like" then I honestly don't know what to say

I think there is a real risk that "avoid dangerous and violent men" will be twisted to "if a woman is a victim of domestic violence, it's her fault because she made a bad choice." Feminists LOVE to scream about victim-blaming.

I'll never get people who are always permanently adamant and obstinate when it comes to accepting blame for anything and yet can turn around and declare like a harp that you "hold the other party accountable" for days on end without a trace of irony. You can't have accountability without blame. Those things are two sides of the same coin. Physical abuse is never justifiable but that doesn't mean you aren't an idiot if you choose not to leave. How many of these people have you met that live by the same code they decry having their own feet held to the fire over?:

  1. If a man cheats in a relationship he's an asshole.
  2. If a woman cheats in a relationship, he's an asshole.

The cheater will almost always consider themselves justified if they can't spin themselves as a victim. In both cases, it's because the person was lacking in character and should be held accountable for their own choices and actions. But this is about how socially it is perceived more often than not. A lot of people rightfully can blame a man for cheating on a woman, no matter how good or bad things are in their relationship. But when women cheat, it's far more common to feel sense of questioning and empathy regarding the actions of their partner; it's often seen as understandable because he was lacking in some ways. "He was driven to cheat because he can't control himself." "She was driven to cheat... By him."

I'm guessing you're familiar with the phenomenon that were the so-called Slut Walks and what started them? This police chief is probably aware and wanted to avoid the same fate.

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