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This. Women define the term expansively to cover as much behavior as possible, men do basically the opposite.
I've never struck a woman outside a training gym. But I've been struck by dozens, stabbed by one. And had a fork thrown at me which by sheer bad luck stuck in my leg by another. By my count that's one count of DV, unreported. If I were a chick, that would be two decades of abuse and it's all society's fault for the misandry that encouraged that sort of female behavior. I call it dating latinas and art hoes.
Note for the boys still in the game, one or the other, not both. That's how you get stabbed.
The paradox of women. A chick might look comically weak and silly when throwing a baseball or football, but then suddenly turn into a ninja when she has a fork in her hand and her stupid husband/boyfriend just isn’t doing the bare minimum in prioritizing her needs.
Perhaps this joke/meme will trigger some fond memores for you.
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And government and society are happy to enforce this double standard, and punish a man for raising his voice to a woman (with the excuse that his larger size and greater strength make that an implicit threat) while not punishing the woman for whaling (if ineffectively) on a man.
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