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Can you just give a direct link to the academic paper from that first posted link? I've heard concerning things about the safety of archive.is lately. As to the "actual piece of research" about the 10%/60%, well, I also could butcher a rabbit and read its entrails and get back to you, but bad methodology yields bad conclusions, full stop.
Clavicular is practically a child, with what seems to be a serious abuse history leading to addiction problems and terrible body dysmorphia? I think the dude needs an intervention more than anything else. I have no idea who donates to him and no intention of trying to find out, but I'd imagine there's a fair proportion of gay men and Russian bots in there. What is his relevance to the claim that women are sluts who only sleep with Chads?
If there is some pristine piece of data out there that doesn't rely on self-reports and somehow peers into people's sex lives directly to make conclusions about the rates of pairings I'd love to see it.
I've sure looked.
But when all the extant stats point approximately in the same direction, I feel pretty confident drawing the most obvious conclusion.
Especially when you account for dating app disparities too.
Do you think there's any downstream effect of some small % of men getting the highest % of matches on such apps? Would that increase or decrease the amount of sex partners they'd have?
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