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We’ll have to focus on women. Either convince/bribe/force them, or revoke their power.
Women have the power over birth, kids and anything remotely connected to natality. We keep giving them more power and taking it from men. Natality keeps going down. Now correlation does not prove causation, but as they say, it does wiggle suggestively. So if natality going down is a problem, it might be a good idea to stop increasing women’s power, which I consider to be well past the point of state-backed privilege anyway.
Convince: End all government-mandated net transfers (until they are no longer net transfers) from men to women, outside of a nuclear family, including child support, alimony, maternity leave, paid university, pensions, welfare etc. If women want to live off men, then at least let it be for the kids, they should cooperate with men economically like they cooperated genetically. I expect men, now in a stronger relative position, to be more likely to vote for kids rather than finding yourself in a fun degree you will never use etc.
Bribe: Boring tax cuts? Increases linearly then drops sharply after the third child. Wouldn’t want a starving rabbit underclass.
Revoke: Right of the father to adopt instead of abortions.
Force: No. All measures compatible with legal equality and freedom of the individual.
Jesus, Mary and Joseph, it's like none of you are over twenty. None of you clearly remember the days when men hated the idea of the "marriage trap" and being tied down to a wife and kids. Why the fuck do you think the Sexual Revolution happened? Men wanted sex without commitment. Before the Pill, if you fucked a nice girl, you ran the risk of getting her pregnant and that meant a shotgun marriage. Whether you believe the evo-psych story about men being wired to be promiscuous or not, it's certainly true that men want to be able to play the field until they're ready to settle down once older.
You can have all the women in the world ready to get married and become wives and mothers once they turn 17, but if men don't want to be tied down to be husbands and fathers, it won't work. If a man doesn't want to come home to a house full of six squalling kids, he'll either pack up and leave, or stay away as much as he can and take up with prostitutes and loose women for his fun times. That does not make for stable marriages or families.
Work on getting men to want to be married and fathers before they hit thirty, and then we can talk about increasing fertility.
Women control reproduction in our societies, that's just a fact. A small part of the reason is biological, but the lion's share is legal. Working on men would be like jailing the passenger for the driver's drunken accident. Let's say all men already were fanatical natalists. They couldn't do anything about it, it would still be 100% women's decision. Personnally, I don't think this is normal or fair, but I can understand the contrary position, pointing to biological differences. But you refuse to even assume responsibility for the greater power granted to women. They decide, so if anyone is to be worked on, it's them. They've successfully reduced men to an 'advisory role' in natality and parenting, but according to you women still do not have agency, it's up to powerless men to act .
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And to be clear, this is why so many historical societies had arranged marriages with gigantic age gaps.
I should note that one of the big flaws with ‘eh, just have girls right out of high school marry 30 somethings’ is that the women themselves do not like this idea, not one bit. To get women to buy into big age gaps it takes a lot of social conditioning and they still prefer smaller ones. So then you’d basically need coerced arranged marriages. Good luck with that.
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