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Not horrifying, but, like, "Hey, I have a high sex drive, so let me stick my dick in you right now so I can also make your life a living hell in 20 years..."? Who opts for that once it's made explicit?
That you would describe the situation as a "living hell" when it would be something, if not approaching heaven, certainly in the same neighborhood to it, to vast swathes of humanity is what I find fascinating here.
Well yeah, we know guys only think with their dicks and a tight wet hole is a tight wet hole and that's all that matters, but women need to be smarter or else they make dumb decisions then end up with two teenage kids and regrets over "why the hell did I marry this guy, the red flags were there all along".
I think the woman in this story is over-sensitive and probably was at least 50% responsible for the marriage breaking down, particularly as she went full steam ahead to marry the guy and put up with him all those years, but it's the fruits of "let me stick my dick in you in trade for making your life hell".
Everyone is better off if they take the red flags into account and do not allow themselves to be led along by their dick or womb, delete as applicable.
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