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This is just as common from the female side of the dating market. If you go places where women talk about dating the guy who dates too long without proposing who won't commit to marriage or kids and wasting her fertility and leaving her with little time to find a husband. I really don't think there's significantly more young men then women who want to marry youngish and have kids. In fact I'd guess that surveys would show that more young men would like to sow their oats compared to young women as in general young men prefer casual sex much more than young women. Regardless given in todays dating market many people don't want marriage or kids these are important compatibility issues that need to be figured out early. Also serious people are much easier to find off the apps. Regardless though this is a caricatured, women overall like children, it's not hard to find women who want commitment and kids.
Steven Shaw has a really good metaphor to explain why a late average marriage age reduces marriage (and therefore fertility) so much. He calls it the Vitality Curve.
Imagine a dancehall that has a dance on Friday night that all the town's young people go to. The dance starts at 8 and ends at 10, so everyone turns up on time, couples up and dances for a couple of hours, then they go home together as couples.
Now imagine the owner extends the times from 6 to midnight. Now, there are the same number of young people, but some will arrive earlier and some will arrive later. The potential couplings that would have happened don't happen, because Mr/Miss Right was there at the wrong time.
In the first case, the average age of first marriage is around 20, in the latter it's around 30. The problem is that two young people who may be suited to eachother don't marry because they meet at the wrong time. Maybe she wants to do another degree, maybe he'd rather focus on his career. Or yes, perhaps he wants to womanise and she wants to party. In either case, because the marriageable period is about 15 years long, there's no Schelling Point, and we get a coordination problem. The marriage-minded young men and women are finding it hard to meet eachother in the sea of 'I'm not looking for something serious' and 'I bet there's a better guy on the apps'.
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