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Can you elaborate on what a "men's feminist movement" would look like? Boys can already become twinks and to an extent (some) men are able to refuse responsibility just fine. I think you might be under-estimating how many men (here) are so seeped in gender-conflict that they would prefer pro-men outcomes at the cost of any amount of disgust.
What pro-men outcomes do you think a "men's feminist movement" would have?
Just as women demanded that traditionally male privileges be redistributed fairly; men must demand that traditionally female privileges be redistributed fairly.
I was unfortunately born with the worms in by brain that bite me if I eg Cry Because I Broke A Bone Or A Direct Relative Fucking Died on account of that is bitch(read: female) behavior; I can force down the impulse to judge for other men but I can't give myself the same grace.
Men deserve the right to get gassed up by other men because they have that shit on, they deserve the right to be a pillow prince, they deserve the right to stay home and raise the children and make the thirst trap untrad-husband tiktok shorts if they want to, they deserve the right to be approached by women who are attracted to them in a bashful way; and all the other female privileges.
This will only happen when
A: a large enough population of men get together and forcefully demand these things, and then act as through they have already had their demands met, and
B: Men (me) stop being such absolute pieces of shit to those among us who fail to live up to the retarded masculine ideal you didn't sign up for.
But the asymmetry of male vs female dynamics comes from:
These things are psychologically hard-wired, not cultural. The only way to make a society where the women and men have symmetrical dynamics is social repression or genetic engineering. The feminist movement, and its outcomes, moved us closer to a state of nature.
The "men's feminist movement" is just Patriarchy.
This is something people of a certain ideological bent state as a thought terminating cliche as an equal and opposite to blank-slatism. It is not proven, because it is unprovable. It is an article of faith. In the past, wearing pants and having wage labor jobs were "psychologically hard-wired, not cultural. "
Maybe they are, maybe they aren't, but you can't make the statement and call it there.
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A general refusal and avoidance of taking overall responsibility for women, thus representing the further erosion of the old patriarchal order, in the same way the feminist movement contributed to that erosion through its refusal and avoidance of being accountable to men. And for men and women old enough to have been acculturated in patriarchal monogamous norms, it will come across as disgusting, much more so in fact than feminism ever did.
Then I must disagree with the OP's prediction that it would disgust the median man 'on here.' The median man here is about 30. He is too young to remember patriarchy.
Men today do not take overall responsibility for women (relative to patriarchy). Women are more independent than ever in their education, careers, and the support given to single mothers and divorced women. As far as I can see, the people who would actually be disgusted by our society -- the ancestors who were actually acculturated in patriarchal monogamous norms -- are all but dead. And it was the feminist movement which also reciprocally freed men of patriarchal obligation: men are no longer legally responsible for their wives or daughters in general; men are no longer required to be monogamous; etc.
Arguably the Boomers (and Gen X?) would be the ones disgusted by this mythical "men's feminist movement." Perhaps that is why we have vestigial parts of family law, or why we have pearl-clutching articles on the plummeting male labor participation rate? I'm not so sure these expectations will die with the Boomers. It would require a critical mass of women to willingly relinquish state coercion over men, and given the direction gender relations have been heading, it's not happening.
If not, then probably with GenX-ers.
I'm not sure how it could ever die, without some sort of transhuman future (which, to be fair, seems more than unlikely). Men, like most people, follow their incentives, and women provide a huge incentive for men both to take responsibility for their weaknesses and to bully and shame other men who act weak and entitled. This effect by women only seems to be increasing as women are freed more and more to provide whatever incentive they want to men, without the limitations of social censure or material need.
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