The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.
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Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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Back when I was eighteen or so, a lot of people suggested I should be a nun. But joining religious life just because you don't fit into secular life doesn't work (that was a huge part of the reason for all the abuse and sex abuse cases in the Church). I knew by myself that I did not have a genuine vocation so that was not for me.
I don't mind if the explanation is "you're just weird or mentally ill or both". It was a reaction to all this about loneliness that I see getting mentioned more and more, and how the default assumption is "everyone wants and needs X, Y, Z" (funnily enough, right now I'm listening to the radio and a song is on with a chorus of "nobody to love" where the singer is lamenting that state), and I'm going "well I don't, so not everybody". If that means "okay a tiny, tiny proportion of the population are just weirdo loner nutcases", fine. I was just wondering "am I the 1 person out of a hundred million who feels like this, or is it genuinely "7,999,999,999 people want love and connection and you are the 1 human on Earth who doesn't"?
Well, if you are not unhappy, you are not unhappy. What you describe seems like a pretty joyless existence to me, but there have always been loners who genuinely don't like socializing with anyone. I don't anyone here is going to try to persuade you that you must make friends and must have a relationship to make your life worth living.
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