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PaperclipPerfector  5d ago (text post)   1939 thread views

Friday Fun Thread for May 15, 2026

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Being a physically active 6'8" dude with shoulder-length hair, I'm rather content with my appearance on a day-to-day basis and am frequently called conventionally attractive and receive compliments. I often exchange smiles with women in public places, and am told by my pals that I get checked out a non-negligible amount of times. On paper I need not fear of anything, but when push comes to shove, and I'm out at a discotheque making an effort to approach women and exchange numbers, paranoia starts to penetrate my head and I begin fearing that my stature as a big guy only makes me uninviting and intimidating to the average 5'5" woman. I hope that's not the case, but if I were a man of average stature, I would never have to worry about any of this to begin with.

I'm only 6'6'' but I've had similar issues because my neutral facial expression can come off as a bit scary, especially when I'm focused; people think I'm angry. I've repeatedly gotten comments that I scare people with my size and intensity, both in work and private settings.

The solution I've found to this is to try to smile and laugh as much and as genuinely as possible. So many doors started opening up for me in all areas of life when I intentionally started projecting an aura of joy. I think this is good advice for anyone but as a big guy with a deep booming voice, you rarely if ever won't be taken seriously so going in the other direction is useful and doesn't really have any downsides.

… I've had similar issues because my neutral facial expression can come off as a bit scary, especially when I'm focused; people think I'm angry. I've repeatedly gotten comments that I scare people with my size and intensity, both in work and private settings.

Oh you too huh? So I’m not the only one then. For me when I’m focused let me stay on track and do my thing. I try to be more sociable and outgoing to compensate for the seemingly outward intensity, and most of the time it takes.

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