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Duolicious (list of 2000 questions)
Way too many questions, and psychometrically incompetent. Couples mainly pair on intelligence and political ideology. Surprisingly, big 5 spousal correlations are quite small. They also pair on BMI and drug using status. Not 2000 dAnK mEmEs questions.
To clarify, Duolicious does not use your answers to these questions for pairing directly. Rather, it distills from these questions your positions on 47 personality traits, and uses those variables for pairing—but it also lets you filter by individual answers in the search interface. Full explanation
Are you the dev or something? 47 traits mostly pulled out of thin air does not change my psychometrically incompetent assessment.
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So this is what @faceh needs apparently ? @faceh please sign up and give us a report on the issues you immediately encounter on that app.
I think it'd be better to just find the correct environment, select whichever female specimen is the most liked / compatible, and deal with it until completion.
Personally, if I had to do it again, I would wager that a BLM protest would not be the right environment for me to find a match, perhaps I'd end up with some white-aspiring South-American or Asian.
Took me five minute to sign up and there are absolutely zero people meeting my criteria in a 30 miles radius.
That's unreasonably picky. Try increasing the radius. Also, don't forget to answer a bunch of the 2000 questions.
Remember that this website is rather small. As I understand it, the creator got a reasonable number of users by advertising on 4chan (there's still a dedicated thread on /soc/, though he no longer participates there) and Twitter something like a year ago, but you still can't expect to see a zillion people on it.
The 'nearest' prospect that showed up with the maximum range was across the state.
30 miles, for me, encompasses my town and the 3 nearest towns, any further than that and its a real commitment to drive out to meet someone.
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