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Culture War Roundup for the week of May 18, 2026

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I don’t know, I’m just not convinced that your anecdota is valuable here as a generalized principle. There’s no reason for me to think that you have insight into female happiness, nor your wife or female friends.

I'm not talking about happiness. I'm talking about whether they find a particular activity to be relaxing or not.

To whatever extent you doubt my anecdata, consider that you have even less. You don't even have a wife or children of your own!

The study indicates their lifestyle make women pretty relaxing even though they babymax.

The study doesn't measure 'relaxation.' As I already stated:

In both populations never married women score higher on psychosocial hassles than the other groups. The difference between married with children and married without is very small in terms of SDs in both populations.

Women of all categories (married, unmarried, kids, no kids) have fewer psychosocial hassles in the Amish population. There's no indication that having kids actually changes psychosocial hassles in either population.

Maybe if the psychosocial hassle score increased for genpop women with children vs genpop childless women you'd have something, but as is you're just grasping at straws to support a conclusion you really want to believe in.