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Wow incredible! I have a job and family and other hobbies and don't prioritize replying to every single comment here.
I feel like you're telling on yourself, and what you think of the userbase, really hard here if you think being a well adjusted individual with an active life is an odd thing. No offense but you might really need some grass touching dude.
This convinces approximately no one, by the way.
No offence (as, apparently, those are magic words that allow you to cause offence), but trying to smear FtttG like this is pathetic.
Well either having a job and family and other hobbies and being busy with them most of the day is a weird thing to do on this site like he claims, or it's not a weird thing and his accusation (that me saying those things is proof I'm some other user who also says those things) doesn't make sense.
It's like if I said
"Sorry, I eat sandwiches for lunch" and he went "you knew who else ate sandwiches? Joe"
Like ok? Tons of people eat sandwiches. That doesn't make sense unless he doesn't eat sandwiches and doesn't think other people do.
That would make sense if me and Joe were the odd guys out for eating sandwiches. It would be wrong, tons of people eat sandwiches but it would make sense as an accusation if that's what he believed.
Like that's fine, I don't judge people who don't eat sandwiches (don't spend lots of their time doing other things and come on here in between stuff on various days (like right now it's decently early before work gets really heavy and sometimes spend days without checking at all.)) He could be a NEET for all I know and care.
But it's still weird to use "you eat sandwiches" as some sort of accusation. That is just telling on yourself.
I wasn't commenting on FtttG's claim that you're a Darwin alt; I don't really care.
I was pointing out that your attempted smear reflected on your character, not his.
What smear? He's the one who seems to find me answering "sorry I didn't reply to your comment because I'm busy and I'm busy because job and family and responsibilities" as some uncommon reason.
That's normal. Lots of people have families and jobs and other responsibilities. If he find it strange for some reason for me to have those things, then he's abnormal. Not abnormal (pejorative) but abnormal (descriptive).
You're so busy with your job and family that you have time to... tell us all how busy with your job and family and that's why you can't reply to comments even though you are replying to a comment at that exact moment?
Come off it. This is Timmy going "Mom, Billy is being mean to me! I'm just sitting here watching TV!" behaviour when conveniently Timmy leaves out that Billy was already watching the TV, he grabbed the remote from Billy and changed it to a different show, and when Billy tried to grab it back then Timmy called in Mom about how he was watching the TV all along and mean old Billy was trying to change it on him.
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You might get better results if you stopped thinking other people are stupid.
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I am a well-adjusted individual with an active life. I was pointing out that you and @guesswho (if we're still maintaining the pretense that you are separate individuals) have an eerily similar tic where you have seemingly limitless time to expound on your opinions (seriously dude, you post an average of 2.5 comments per day here, you're in no position to throw stones), but the second you get any significant amount of pushback, you instantly claim to be far too busy with your other responsibilities to reply to them. I'm not criticising you for not replying to every comment (I routinely have more important things to do than to be posting here). I'm pointing out that the pattern of behaviour is so uncannily similar that I would be flabbergasted if you aren't yet another Darwin alt/sockpuppet. And I really, truthfully, do not understand this weird urge you feel to periodically flounce off, only to reappear some time later under a new username. It's just such phenomenally strange behaviour. I wonder what your next username will be.
Damn are you me too then?
I also regularly go days without posting too and when I do post it's generally in bursts centered together.
Woah, you are a Darwin alt. Your pattern of behavior claiming you have other things to do is just what he did! Holy shit.
Poor reading comprehension in addition to being obnoxious (yet another thing you have in common with @guesswho – what a coincidence!). Go through my entire comment history and you will never, not once, find an instance in which I claimed the reason I could not reply to someone's comment was because I was too busy with my job and family. There have been times in which I was so occupied, but I never announced it in the sneering tone of dismissive condescension which is your favourite. That specific tic is a dead giveaway. So too is your defensive shit-slinging when you realise your subterfuge wasn't quite as convincing as you thought it was.
I don't do that either, except in the specific situation where someone asked me why I don't reply to everything like their comment.
If I asked you why you didn't reply to a specific comment or question among many, what would your answer be?
Maybe you would say
Or
As your response to that question.
"I don't do that thing either, except on those occasions when I do."
Thanks for spelling that out for me dude, really appreciate it.
Ok let's check.
Why do you sometimes not reply to every comment?
Oftentimes because I have nothing to contribute in reply.
Ok sure that's one possible reason.
Would you say that
Or
Are also reasons of yours sometimes?
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