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Well either having a job and family and other hobbies and being busy with them most of the day is a weird thing to do on this site like he claims, or it's not a weird thing and his accusation (that me saying those things is proof I'm some other user who also says those things) doesn't make sense.
It's like if I said
"Sorry, I eat sandwiches for lunch" and he went "you knew who else ate sandwiches? Joe"
Like ok? Tons of people eat sandwiches. That doesn't make sense unless he doesn't eat sandwiches and doesn't think other people do.
That would make sense if me and Joe were the odd guys out for eating sandwiches. It would be wrong, tons of people eat sandwiches but it would make sense as an accusation if that's what he believed.
Like that's fine, I don't judge people who don't eat sandwiches (don't spend lots of their time doing other things and come on here in between stuff on various days (like right now it's decently early before work gets really heavy and sometimes spend days without checking at all.)) He could be a NEET for all I know and care.
But it's still weird to use "you eat sandwiches" as some sort of accusation. That is just telling on yourself.
I wasn't commenting on FtttG's claim that you're a Darwin alt; I don't really care.
I was pointing out that your attempted smear reflected on your character, not his.
What smear? He's the one who seems to find me answering "sorry I didn't reply to your comment because I'm busy and I'm busy because job and family and responsibilities" as some uncommon reason.
That's normal. Lots of people have families and jobs and other responsibilities. If he find it strange for some reason for me to have those things, then he's abnormal. Not abnormal (pejorative) but abnormal (descriptive).
You're so busy with your job and family that you have time to... tell us all how busy with your job and family and that's why you can't reply to comments even though you are replying to a comment at that exact moment?
Come off it. This is Timmy going "Mom, Billy is being mean to me! I'm just sitting here watching TV!" behaviour when conveniently Timmy leaves out that Billy was already watching the TV, he grabbed the remote from Billy and changed it to a different show, and when Billy tried to grab it back then Timmy called in Mom about how he was watching the TV all along and mean old Billy was trying to change it on him.
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You might get better results if you stopped thinking other people are stupid.
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