In yesterday's small-scale questions thread, @cjet79 asks why the song "Mr. Brightside" by The Killers has had such staying power, famously staying in the UK singles charts decades after its initial release. Some explanations (including my own) point to its compositional elements; others focus on its lyrics and subject matter. @100ProofTollBooth argues that it's a very universal and relatable song, as "The experience of infidelity (to some degree) is common to many (most? idk) people."
I'm curious if this is really the case, so I decided to go Aella mode and created a simple survey to find out about people's experiences with infidelity. It consists of a few demographic questions (age, sex, sexual orientation, relationship style), then asks you if you've ever had an unfaithful partner, then asks you if you've ever been unfaithful to a partner.
Completely anonymous, and I've set it up so the form doesn't collect email addresses if you're logged in.
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
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I thought of that, which is why I included this subtitle below every question:
If you're in an open relationship with ground rules like "don't have sex with my friends or family members", then I wouldn't say you've been cheated on unless your partner had sex with one of your friends or family members.
Ah. I'd read that more as modifying "consent", rather than modifying "consent or knowledge", but that's probably an artifact of how poly people treat it and may not be an issue for the overwhelming majority of respondents here.
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