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PaperclipPerfector  7d ago (text post)   2935 thread views

Small-Scale Question Sunday for June 14, 2026

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How unreasonable is it to prioritize work over interpersonal connections? I truly enjoy my work and find it so much more gratifying than anything else I have ever done in my life, but there seems to be some sort of prevailing consensus that you are only human if you relate to others? Has anyone else led a somewhat more solitary existence and prioritized only themselves over connections with others (outside of the connections you make at work anyway in a team, although those connections are more transactional in nature)?

I wholeheartedly recommend that you do as I did, and gradually isolate yourself from interacting with absolutely everybody, except for the cases where one of you or both are acting in a professional capacity. (For context: I am recommending it because I'm a misogynist.)

It is possible to make such a recommendation without being a misogynist.

I admire the strong boldness or complete ignorance to make a statement like that; my only addendum being it isn’t exactly wrong to ‘conclude’ that, if your life experience has led you down the path of understanding and realization that “lack of success doesn’t prove lack of effort,” when it comes to the romance game. If you come up empty or find yourself at a dead end you can have it anyway you want: with the self-pity; or without it.

if your life experience has led you down the path of understanding and realization that “lack of success doesn’t prove lack of effort,” when it comes to the romance game

Friendship, romance—same thing (1 2).

I don’t know about that one. I have friends who have married their wife and others who married their female best friend they’d known all their lives. The former has seemed to prove more successful than the latter.

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