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So to be clear, your position is primarily based on the idea that young men want more than anything to get married and have children?
If so, your argument seems to be based around a peremptory dismissal of any idea of democracy or freedom, in favor of telling Young Men that this is what they want. Because I don't think there is any time in history where people actually believed that Young Men wanted to get married and have babies as a thing in itself. Young Men want to have sex with beautiful women, and marriage along with rules around sodomy are largely a trick that gates having sex with beautiful women in such a way that you have to get married and have kids.
Most of the history of talking about Young Men is how they don't want to get married and have kids, and how to buffalo them into doing so. Young Men want to sow their wild oats, they want to hang out with their buddies, they want to go off on cockamamie adventures. They don't want to settle down.
Now, you can announce that ultimately they will want marriage and children, so marriage and children is what is good for them for ideological reasons around religion or a certain philosophical view of evolutionary biology. But that isn't what they want in the normal sense of the word. That is what you want for them.
Every legal and cultural change around the sexual revolution was driven by Young Men seeking sexual license, not by old women. As @2rafa points out, the most masculine way to exist is gambling, risking that one will end up in the bottom 20% of men who have poor prospects in the belief that one will end up in the top 20% of men who have excellent prospects.
So when you say that this is a betrayal of Young Men, what you mean is something like "spare the rod, spoil the child;" that society has allowed Young Men to eat ice cream for dinner and stay up late every night and needs to force them into marriage and children.
Play published in 1623, Shakespeare's "A Winter's Tale":
Shakespeare is, of course, known for his 100% trustworthy characters, like Dick the Butcher or Polonius the Fool, who always espouse the author's wisdom.
Have you read any Shakespeare? "The passions of horny young men are stable, prosocial and a force for Good in the world" would be a... surprising moral to derive from his plays.
The character @HereAndGone2 quotes is not a Polonius-style poser, just a shepherd delivering folksy wisdom that any sensible audience member recognizes as correct. And although A Winter's Tale features one plotline where a young man's (chaste, generous, marriage-oriented) romantic aspirations get reconciled by fate with his elders' more rational plans, the overall plot is very unfriendly to the exact type of porny fantasy-fueled sexual envy and possessiveness you see in the state-mandated-girlfriend crowd here.
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I think I'll trust Shakespeare's jokes about young guys as being representative of views at the time rather than "but what about the character that doesn't fit your schema, checkmate!" re-writing going on here.
I'll certainly believe that a stodgy old shepherd believed that about young men, and that could well be realistic for the time. But it doesn't mean the shepherd was correct, nor even that Shakespeare believed the shepherd was correct.
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