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Not really. Because -- significantly -- I was very clear that Bruce Jenner was NOT in the room.
Assuming for the sake of discussion that it's "mean" to "misgender" someone, are you saying that this applies to all conversations, discussions, etc. everywhere, public or private, regardless of whether the person who has been "misgendered" is present or otherwise privy to the conversation?
Assuming for the sake of discussion that it's "mean" to "misgender" someone, are you saying that this applies to all conversations, discussions, etc. everywhere, public or private, regardless of whether the person who has been "misgendered" is present or otherwise privy to the conversation?
Correct. If you call my wife a bitch I will consider it "mean" whether my wife is there or not right? I can take offense and tell you off on her behalf. I may not even tell her about it.
Ok, just to be clear, this principle applies to every last person in the world, right? So if I am at work, and I say something negative about someone, somewhere else in the world, that nobody knows or has heard of, that is "rude" just as it would be "rude" if the person were right there. Correct?
Correct. Though of course if no-one hears you, or no-one who cares hears you then it's a moot point. It's rude/mean but nothing will happen.
I suppose unless you are a Christian or similar in which case God might be taking notes regardless.
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