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What behaviour, if exhibited by a trans woman, would you concede is not 'entirely consistent with an entitled and pornsick man'?
Crocheting.
So, if Alice née Alan crochets, you would conclude that she is not 'an entitled and pornsick man'?
If that is not your meaning, than I might not have been clear exactly what I was asking.
The question I am attempting to ask is: Is there any pattern of behaviour by Alice née Alan that you would consider sufficient to establish that Alice is not 'an entitled and pornsick man', while also not accepting your previously expressed Views on men, women, and the distinction therebetween, or is this a Kafka-trap wherein the mere fact of Alice claiming to be a woman while being AMAB is proof of her being 'an entitled and pornsick man'?
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Being obsessed with soap operas instead of military science fiction would be a good start.
A dizzying amount of transpeople are autistic, but I never met a single one whose associated obsessions didn't follow their birth sex very strongly.
But is that downstream of natal biology, or of assumed gender during childhood and adolescence?
(Also, I'm not so sure 'autistic person' and 'primary plot driver is the sort of petty social status competitions found in a high-school lunchroom' really fit that well together, even if the autistic person is a cis-woman. Does anyone have stats on the distribution of interests in autistic versus not autistic cis-women?)
Does it matter? This just means that even if you concede that gender would be somehow separate from sex and defined by apparent looks or behavior, these people still code in the bucket of 'male'.
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Most of it just comes down to basic self-awareness/self-control, so stuff like:
But having basic self-awareness/self-control is negatively correlated with being visibly trans (and accusations of porn-brainedness are derivatives of that), so even if there is a dark mass of ex-men/ex-women who are doing this, it's significantly harder to observe attributes of someone who doesn't want you to see them. (I suspect this is far less common for ex-women simply because the male uniform is unisex.) At least the more self-aware types tend to wear masks as an anti-jawline measure.
Then again, "being an obnoxious attention whore" is a stereotypically feminine trait. So maybe I do indeed err by failing to take them at their word that they're a walking minstrel show and a loudly-ticking social time bomb. I'm not sure which is better.
In other words, yielding to others' belief that she is a 'delusional man in a dress'?
A name like that isn't doing any heavy lifting trying to force pronouns, be they deserved or not.
Being [able to be] at the mercy of external actors evaluating what gender they believe you are is kind of the point; forcing the issue is the root hostile action.
As opposed to actively imposing the belief that he isn't, which is the same problem from the other direction.
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