The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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My house is cleaner, more organized, and in better repair than it's been in decades and it makes me incredibly sad.
It's been almost 6 months since my husband died and I have spent the time doing. It was hard to get things done before because he was the guy and if there was a task and I started doing it he would feel guilty that he wasn't doing it (ADHD is a bear) and I didn't want him to feel guilty so I would bring things up instead of just doing them and he would be all oh yeah I will do that and then ADHD. Now I can just, do it.
There's still a ton to do. So many things. I think I need to replace the steps on my deck (steps end directly on dirt and things have shifted over the years). I know nothing about rebuilding steps on a deck but I can dig holes and buy stringers and pour concrete and screw down boards. So I probably won't make things worse. And one more thing will be knocked off the to do list making the house more pleasant to be in. Because it's easier when I am not working around my spouse's ADHD. And boy doesn't that make me a jerk.
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