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Asking a question, a picture of whatever thing I'm doing that day, like cooking or walking my dog. One time, a picture of my dog at the beach was apparently so offensive she stopped replying. This was a Wednesday, with a date scheduled for Friday, which obviously didn't happen. I don't send photos anymore.
I don't know what it is I'm supposed to say via text to a person I don't know that will keep their fickle interest for the two days between setting the date and the date happening, especially when they reply to open-ended questions with yes/no/idunno, lol.
As I said, having a long conversation where they start spontaneously complimenting me has the same result as silence: getting flaked on or ghosted.
This doesn't seem like a great idea. What does it communicate about you to a person you are trying to get to know? That you eat? That you have a dog? What would your response be if someone sent you a text that said "I'm cooking dinner right now"?
Honestly, if those were the only answers I was getting, I wouldn't have high hopes for the date to begin with. Not because they aren't interested, but because a person who responds like that to someone she isn't interested in probably isn't giving much more to someone she actually is interested in. If you're number five on her list and she agrees to go out with you, at least you get her undivided attention for a couple hours, and you have a chance to move up. If she's really that boring, then you probably lucky they cancelled on you.
Nothing is always a good option. Maybe it's because I come from the old school, but I assume as a matter of course that plans are to be kept. Once the time and place is set, "Great, see you there" is all that's necessary until you're ready to send "I got a booth on the left wall". Unless she texts you before that, or you're going to be late, or there's some other compelling reason.
Some other long screeds of advice here talked about keeping conversations going and texting every day before the date, so I'm hearing two different things and neither works.
The cooking is supposed to show off I can cook, which is supposed to be uncommon and sexy but also totally normal and unimpressive and entitled, like everything else about me.
I don't like giving specific advice; I can only tell you what's worked for me. But one thing I would add is that I generally don't give unsolicited information about myself unless there's occasion to do so. If you want them to know you can cook, that's what the profile is for. I've only ever messaged to ask them something or respond to something they said, not to just provide information in the hope that it makes me more attractive. If they aren't giving you much to work with, that's on them.
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