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My daughter (7) wants to do chores for money. I have been putting it off, because I don't want to commit myself to something that I will later regret. Has anyone else offered paid chores? Any suggestions about it? For reference, I am an extremely bad housekeeper with a toddler at home, so everything just keeps getting messy again immediately, and I have turned down her suggestion that she could clean up a space whenever it seems messy, since that's basicially immediately after tidying.
I would almost rather pay her to do slow concentration tasks, like crafts and reading, since that is what I actually want her to start doing more of. An artist I talked to, for instance, said she paid her daughter to read books like Harry Potter aloud while she painted.
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It's a tricky thing paying people to do stuff. I remember reading studies decades ago about how it lowered motivation for many tasks to add a paid component.
You could give a fixed allowance predicated on some amount of chore completion so she acquires money but it isn't 1:1 related to the task
My concern is less chores, and more of any unintended blowback by accidentally making her dislike crafts because her parents monetized it and it killed the vibe (I can't remember the mechanism of action in the studies lol)
It's called overjustification.
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