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I'm pretty sure he hired the same firm that did his divorce. The Plaintiff alleged it and had this really annoying habit of calling the defense attorney by his first name with a lot of attitude whenever he (the attorney) didn't let her off easy. She was fighting with the attorney on the stand.
He pretty much said this. And that was sort of my problem. She was clearly doing what she liked. I really find it hard to believe that she didn't withdraw money from his account to make herself whole. Was she expecting him to directly transfer it with a note? I struggle to think if this man could open up an internet browser.
Of course he did 🤦♀️
So Chad hired the same guys who handled his divorce - and who got paid at least in part by the plaintiff in this case for divorce fees - to handle this case. No wonder the lawyer sat down and shut up. He already knew what a dumpster fire his client was.
You said he was a gunnery sergeant. I know there are jokes about Marines being crayon eaters, but this guy was being sent on deployment for active service, and unless he was a desk wallah in the quartermaster's stores or something, he has to have some technical knowledge. Especially if he's in the stores, he would need to know how to open up a browser.
I was probably being a bit exasperated. He probably knows how to open a browser. He just seemed to make really stupid decisions one after the other without any seeming idea that they were stupid.
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A lawyer almost certainly has someone on hand who can help a client access financial records, no?
Given that the guy gets into bar fights and loses his government card so he has to borrow money off his girlfriend to pay for flights and lodging and meals while on deployment, maybe the court would be better off (for his case) not knowing where his pay/allowance went. Does this sound like a guy who possibly might have "hookers and blow" on a credit card or not? 🤣
Now, she too was dumb to give him a pre-paid card which he promptly uses to run up expenses, but love makes us do strange things (you. It makes you do strange things. I retain my sanity in that department).
The worst part is she could have just easily paused the card, we had a juror with the same exact card going on and on about it.
Definitely she could have and should have, but of course he was full of excuses as to why he needed money and she was just throwing good money after bad because he was her baby daddy and gonna marry her soon as he came back. Everybody is an idiot in this case.
Yeah you'll love this, her response to part under questioning was "I love him and I didn't want him to suffer!!!". As if being forced to stay on the boat and be served 3 meals a day was suffering.
I can believe it. You would not believe (although after this experience, maybe you would) the dumb stupid things women (and men too) do because "I loooooove them!!!"
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Yes, yes it does. But a pre-paid card seems like how you’d handle giving money to someone who can’t control spending.
Problem was she kept topping it up, which is the Sunk Cost Fallacy in operation if ever it was.
Nobody said she was making good decisions in her long term direction(see: this woman's entire story), just better ones in specific details. That's why he was in a relationship with her.
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